My son was in high tide when he left the nest to go his own way. I kept an eye on his chart of course. In this case, I kept an eye on his Solar Return chart because it’s an easy way to glimpse a whole year of a person’s life.
This is not to say the Solar Return chart is most important. This is just the primary way I’ve keep an eye on him. I would not get involved in the minutiae of his life, unless I was asked to. A great Solar Return goes a long way.
My son had a really nice run. He had these sweet Solar Return charts for five years or so until he hit a snag in 2020.
His 2020 return chart looked rough and in fact it played out that way. When I looked at his current return, I expected to see improvement. After all, he was sailing through all these years. No one wants their child to struggle and they certainly don’t want them to suffer. But in fact, his 2021 return was even worse than what he’d just endured.
I kept my mouth shut about this. What am I supposed to say? Oh well, you’re doomed..? He’d just has to get through it.
He’s halfway through it now. The chart shown is his 2022 Solar Return. Moon conjunct Jupiter and Neptune in their home sign and Venus in exaltation? I think I can exhale.
I often work with parents who have kids stuck in a hard transition. It’s often a Saturn deal. They child or the young adult is in the process of maturing and you’ve just got to let them take their (hard) knocks. If not, they will not mature and they will probably resent you as well.
Pluto transits are often worse. Pushing back against resistance is one thing. Being knocked into a deep, deep well is another. It’s so hard to watch.
Worrying doesn’t help! But keeping an eye on your children’s charts probably does. It helps you know when to back off and just as importantly, why. Because if you understand the purpose of some ordeal, it’s easier to accept.
Do you keep an eye on your children with astrology?