We all have problems and/or things we have to come to terms with. Some people are more successful at doing this than others. I’ve been watching this and thinking about it a lot lately, because it’s personal to me. I don’t want to be in endless pain over something, I can’t resolve. I want to get beyond the block. I’ll give you some examples of what I’m talking about.
I once had a client, he’d looked for the same job in the same place, the same way, for two years. His was wife was ready to leave him.
“If you were fishing in a certain spot for a certain fish, and you had not caught one even one fish, would it not occur to you to find another lake? Or different bait? Or something?” I asked. I wasn’t being rude, I was curious. I could hardly believe this at the time. But now I see it’s very common. I’m not sure exactly what the root of this would be for each individual, but stubbornness is probably part of it. Denial? Not paying attention?
I think most people really DO want to solve their problems. I don’t think that many people know how.
Assigning blame to some outside force is another thing that hinders people. For example, women who can’t find a partner will say that there are no good men. If you believe this, you’re talking about billions of people you’ve never met. And if men are that bad, who wants one anyway? But they do want a man and I wonder if they might get one, if they were to forget about the lack outside themselves and consider how they wound up alone at this point in time. What choices did they make that that led them to this point in their life?
Also, what about you method? If you could find a viable partner, dating online, ten years ago, is it still true today? Maybe not. Maybe times have changed. Actually, times have changed and so have you.
What I’m finding is that in most cases, you’ve got to take a hit. I lost X or I lost Y or I can’t have Z and now what? This allows me to look ahead. And if I ever get X or Y or Z back (not likely), the intersection would occur in the future, so I may as well head there.
Continuing to fish the same pond equates to hanging on to that which has died. Er…Step Away From The Corpse.
Also, the “hit” you take can come in many forms.
Do you have a problem you can’t solve or a pain you can’t move beyond? What might you do to change your situation?
Since writing this, I held a workshop to help people with this – How To Use Astrology To Solve Problems & Get What You Want.