Today I was asked what I consider the “best” aspects in synastry between a couple. So, here goes.
Nothing beats someone’s Venus on your Moon. This is the mooshy-squooshy aspect– yes, that is technical jargon, feel free to use it. You just GET each other. Venus is bottom-line value system, Moon is your bottom-line emotional needs. So the couple just look at each other and know what the other one wants and needs. Who doesn’t like that? If the conjunction is somehow assisted by a nice aspect from any outer planet, so much the better. Here’s the caveat, however. If you happen to have a Moon/Uranus square or opposition, and someone’s Venus comes along and parks on your Moon, you will have an “opportunity” to learn a lesson about your “come closer/get away” emotional needs. Because Uranus does not move quickly in transit, chances are your potential beloved has Uranus close to the same degree as you, which would mean they have a Venus/Uranus aspect. So the lesson is mutual. Level of consciousness really is the defining point here.
Ok, next… Mars/Sun. If you are the “feminine” person in your relationship, having your partner’s Mars in positive aspect to your Sun is really FUN. Your partner’s Mars enlivens your Sun. It Jazzes it up. You have an inspired idea, their Mars knows how to implement it, be your cheerleader and get your motor running. Someone’s Mars on your Sun can be your “perfect” man, or so it seems.
Same caveat. Look at the aspects. They can mitigate heavily.
Next: Uranus trine Venus. I like this better than Jupiter trine Venus, which can lead to an excess of laziness, albeit you’ll never know because you’re too busy eating the chocolates your partner is stuffing in your face. But Uranus has the invigorating, fresh, spontaneous SNAP that keeps the electricity alive in a relationship. You just think they’re COOL. It can take an otherwise heavy Saturnian relationship and turn that Saturn into just solid commitment because Uranus trine Venus will always make sure there’s fun on the table. Overly Saturnian relationships can be just about duty, but if you’ve got nice Uranus trines and sextiles, the duty is absolutely NOT drudgery.
And, of course I can’t forget about Mars and Venus. If you are the feminine one in the relationship, look at what his Mars is doing to your Venus. Trines and sextiles are HAWT, but the square is usually difficult because the timing is off… like you’re washing dishes and he thinks it’s sexy to grab your breasts from behind– because what can you do? You’ve got your hands in the dishwater and can’t smack them away. And that IRRITATES you because, well, dishwashing is NOT sexytime for you.
And lastly I’ll talk about Mercury. Difficult Mercury aspects can be overcome if people are willing to realize that the other person’s filter is hearing things that you are not necessarily saying. Compatible Mercuries usually don’t have this problem, you talk the same language. Because communication is, obviously, extremely important, I always focus on the aspects and signs of two people’s Mercuries to facilitate a discussion of how each person communicates. Example: you’ve got earth Mercury, your new lover has air Mercury. He loves to sit and yak and plan and you are wondering WHAT sentence you should focus on because he is just ALL over the place…. frustration grows….
You’re probably wondering why I haven’t mentioned Neptune. It’s because if you don’t have some of this other stuff, all Neptune will do is make you not care, because this is your soul mate, you see? Except… usually NOT.
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