If Person A’s Mercury is squaring Person B’s Mercury (considered a challenging aspect) but Person A’s Mercury is conjunct Person B’s Moon which is harmonious. Which do you give greater weight to and how do you make that determination?
Curious in the United States
Hi Curious. This is a great question that a lot of people struggle with. When there are two aspects that seem to contradict each other, both are valid and both will play.
In the example you offer, Mercury in conflict with Mercury will see the two minds, clash. That’s one event. But with the harmonious contact with the Moon, the Moon person’s may feel okay about the situation. Or the Mercury person may understand (Mercury) the feelings (Moon) of their partner.
As for weighing one aspect over the other; this would be up to an individual’s preference. If they hate bickering, they may ignore some of the positive things that come from it. It might be a deal-breaker in that case. Another person might think it’s no big deal.
If you want to look at this, strictly in terms of astrology, then you might consider the orbs of the aspects. In that case, the aspect with the tighter orb might be more emphasized.
What’s your experience weighing aspects in synastry?