The soldier has Saturn (impediment, work) in aspect to Mars (hunting) and Mercury (talk) and it sounds like this:
“A man has got to do a lot to overcome the way he looks and get a woman,” the soldier said. “It’s all kinds of work.”
“You really think that?”
“Hell yes. You’ve got to bust your ass to get over what you really look like and see something like… glistening teeth when she looks at you.”
I stared for a moment. “I don’t recall your doing a lot of work to get me.”
“The hell I didn’t. I called you all the time.”
“Yeah. 20 times a day! But I thought if was because you liked to talk to me,” I said.
“I do like to talk to you but it’s still work. I have to come up with all kinds of sweet things to tell you,” he explained.
“I thought you felt that stuff.”
“I do feel that stuff but I still have to work to find ways to tell you.”
“Yeah, it’s a pain in the ass but when you look like I do you have no choice.”
“You look good.”
“P, I have you tricked.”
I think it’s interesting, his consciousness of this. Everything is so deliberate and while I don’t think it is unusual, I do think his awareness and willingness to articulate this kind of admission in exceedingly rare.
Do you consciously try to compensate for what you feel is a shortcoming in relationship?