What Do Venus and Mars Mean In A Natal Chart?

venus and mars Lorenzo LippiSome planets form natural pairs that balance each other. The Sun and the Moon. Venus and Mars. Jupiter and Saturn (expansion and restriction). I wanted to look at Venus and Mars. These planets show what you like (Venus) and how you go about getting it (Mars).

If a man has Venus in Aquarius and Mars in Cancer, he might go for someone who is quirky or unusual in some way and his MO might be to invite you to his house for a home cooked meal. This may sound hokey but it’s accurate.

A man who has Venus in Taurus and Mars in Scorpio is going to go for a solid woman… or perhaps a beauty ideal. He’ll procure her my manipulation; namely he is going to get her (manipulate her) into his bed, where he will then manipulate her some more.

A man with Venus in Leo is going to go for the woman with panache. If he has Mars in Pisces he is going to seduce her, very often he’ll offer her a drink…

Aspects / houses do impact this stuff but you get the idea.

Where is your Venus and Mars? What do you like and how do you get it?

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What Do Venus and Mars Mean In A Natal Chart? — 99 Comments

  1. my venus is in libra and my mars is in aries. haha. pretty straightforward if you ask me? maybe. but my mars is squared by uranus,neptune,saturn ( which are all conjunct btw ) and venus has a sequence of sextiles ( to uranus, saturn, and then quintiles neptune ) so that complicates it. Oh and my moon conjuncts mars and though most approach this aspect as to how it affects my own feelings/emotions i would also want to look at how it affects what kind of guys i’m attracted to.. mars is in aries– but conjuncts moon, so i’m very attracted to a guy who has a good sense of himself, but moon conjuncting mars (2 degree separation) comes off to me as the guy has to have a good degree of sensitivity. I’m a sucker for sensitive guys.. not complete pushovers of course but.. more than looks or anything they have to be generous of heart, and have compassion. Even to the extent where that part extends past the physical aspects of attraction.

  2. omg! ok, i should know most of this already, but the beginners series is encouraing me to review it step-by-step. thought my husband had a different placement, but realized he’s got mars and venus in cancer.

    the first time i came to see him after his wife had left him (we were friends), i went over to his house and spent the entire eveing helping him folding a huge mountain of kids’ clothes. i brough him a bag of hershey’s kisses to cheer him up. his nephew suggested he ask me out.

    our first date was to a haunted house, followed up by a visit to his brother’s house later. i didn’t understand why he seemed sentimental over this, but had a good time and was happy he was happy. we went to a halloween party at a childhood friend’s house for another date.

    we spent a lot of time together in the basement of his mother’s house, where he stayed with the kids for a while. our first kiss was in a car sitting outside his mother’s house.

    and i wonder why he hates to go out? 😆

    there are a lot more examples, but the cancer themes are all through our relationship and i hadn’t even noticed it before. it’s funny looking back. i couldn’t have done better if i’d had a clue.

  3. Mars in Libra – I flirt to get what I want! It is conjunct pluto so suggestive banter plays a part too. Venus is in virgo and I don’t get that because I have never gone for a virgo type ever. Venus is opposite 5th house jupiter in pisces and I have often gone for addicts but they were love affairs. If I were ever to marry I suppose I wiould want a really solid person who would be a rock for me. I think that is venus sextile saturn and taurus on the 7th house cusp but venus in virgo? I just don’t see I would ever go for a virgo type man.

  4. “Venus is in virgo and I don’t get that because I have never gone for a virgo type ever. I just don’t see I would ever go for a virgo type man.”

    It is not always so literal. The soldier have Venus in Gemini in aspect to Uranus.

    He went for Anne Shirley (of green gables) and for Elsa P.

    What he likes about both of us is our wordiness (Gemini communication) and our independence (Uranus)… plus our eccentric (Uranus) way of communicating (Mercury/ Gem).

    In short we are INTERESTING.

  5. Ok I see and am much relieved. I just sat for a minute or two with the thought of a fussy, pedantic man! In typical manner I shall probably marry a virgo and be delighted now…Don’t mean to virgo bash though – I am a virgo hence the horror…

  6. von, no this is for everyone and I have the thing you mention, I just disagree with it.

    Venus shows your tastes, Mars your MO and when people say otherwise I just figure they, “dreamed they saw the knights in armor coming saying something about a Queen…”

    ha ha ha

  7. Pisces Venus, Mars in Aries.

    I think it sort of intensifies both, right? The emotional, loving side is that much more schmoopy and the conflict ridden Mars is that much more no-bullshit.

  8. Venus in Aquarius so I need someone who is intelligent, willing to exchange their thoughts/ideas with me, and unique. I need someone who’ll become my best friend. (honestly, my idea of the perfect partner is someone who’s not only my best friend and who I also enjoy having sex with.)

    Mars in Pisces … seducing… I don’t know if for me seducing would be the right word, but I think I can certainly woo people to see how perfect I am for them. 😀 Also, my partners are pretty much the only ones who see my emotional side. Everyone else gets the aquarius sun/gemini moon detachment and flightiness.

  9. Venus in Leo (conjunct Uranus) – I dated a Leo man only once, and it did not go well. I married an Aquarian, and most of my boyfriends before him, were also Aquarians, so, I don’t know, probably that Uranus thing 🙂

    My Mars is in Taurus – I don’t think I have ever actively “seduced” someone – I could never bring myself to pursue a man, think it is the Leo ego or something. As a matter of fact, I have never called a man first, spoke to him first, none of that……hmm, I don’t know (?)

    • I also have Venus Leo and Taurus Mars. My hubby has Aries Venus and Cancer Mars..) we’ve been married 35yrs..I never pursued a man but then again we were teens when we met LOL. My husband is a solid familyman..strong and ready to help anyone. My kids all say “watch what you ask for, Dad will do it”…so he does cater to me (lol I am Leo thru and thru)

  10. Dorothy, Mars in Taurus doesn’t exactly bust a move, LOL.

    What you mean, is you stood there in your field and damnit, that should be enough!

    Unless someone pisses you off that is. Then you’re looking at a rhino charge! 🙂

  11. Rhino charge – haha that about sums it up – and yes, I do love to go to the beauty parlor with my younger Taurus sister, we both do love to sit there and be pampered (keyword here is sit 🙂

  12. “Dorothy, Mars in Taurus doesn’t exactly bust a move, LOL.

    What you mean, is you stood there in your field and damnit, that should be enough!”

    rofl. yes indeed, that’s so taurus

  13. Venus in Leo, Mars in Sag. Love the chase and high drama. But these two square each other so I have problems in that dept.

    How do I get into the pants of someone with Venus in Capricorn, Mars in Pisces?

  14. “Mars in Pisces … seducing… I don’t know if for me seducing would be the right word, but I think I can certainly woo people to see how perfect I am for them.”

    You might not see it as seducing, but I bet they do. 😉

    (speaking from experience here ;-))

  15. hahaha I think in my mind I give the word “seducing” a negative connotation… it sort of sounds like you are tricking someone. But wooing.. it sounds less forceful (or maybe just forceful in a passive aggressive way) 😀

  16. Hm! My current guy has Venus in Aquarius with a Mars in Cancer and he was very caring, but no homecooked meal! I won’t let him near the kitchen. The guy ruined crackers, for God’s sake!

  17. Piya, maybe not but Mars in Cancer knows how to work women… that’s for sure. The soldier has mars in Cancer actually, as does Vid’s Dad.

    The soldier fights for women (mars in cancer) and very, very worshipful of women as mothers. Very much will fight for the clan which means the home country too of course,

  18. Good post, I’ll have to spend a little time thinking about that. The Mars question is easy, but the venus question (what I want) is harder.

  19. Venus Gemini and Scorpio/ Mars – I like to talk I like bright people, they have to be smart n order to appeal to me sexually and I’m rarely attracted to someone sexually. So Houston we hae a problem.

    I’m clueless how to get it. It better come with the dominoes pizza guy otherwise i’m shit outta luck. I can’t even find anything i stay interested enough for long enough to use as a ‘tactic’ for getting out of the house so I have no idea.

    – I’m like alot of sex. g

  20. Geez, Lots go’n on here, and I was out mixing paint for my house. Go figure.

    Okay, Venus in Sag and Mars in Leo. What’s that. Insatiable love sought with flair? I love an adventure, and an adventurous love. I’ve gotta find my guy’s chart!

  21. Venus in Scorpio-I’m attracted to mysterious, passionate, and unavailable women OH and very dark personalities. I am also attracted to older women than myself.

    Mars in Aries-I attack. I get what I want. I don’t let anyone choose me, I choose what I want and I get what I want.

  22. “do you think that moon conjuncting mars would lead the individual ( if female ) to be attracted to more sensitive types?”

    Hell no! That;s a hotted up Moon, akin to Moon in Aries, likes to fight!

  23. I read somewhere that when looking for the type of men that women like, you should look at their Mars and not their Venus. How does this correlate? My Mars is in Scorpio … and Scorpio is not generally who I end up dating. I like Aquarians, I seem to meet a lot of Librans, and I still think about a Virgo I knew once.

  24. My venus is in cancer and mars in libra and they are squaring each other. I like a stable guy that I can rely on, with a little bit of bad boy,lol. Hmm I guess I get what I want from communication and light flirting. Back in the day I would ignore the object of my affection,haha. How weird is that.

    My husband has venus in taurus and mars in aquarius (my moon).

  25. venus in aries- trouble for me (pisces sun) i like the hotties…charismatic, creative and powerful…but playful and spirited as well…mars in cancer…playful approach…bollywood-like… now you see me now you don’t…laughter, food and touch

  26. hmm… thats odd then. haha, because i have moon conjunct mars in aries, but i have a couple squares to my moon too ( uranus, saturn, neptune ) … and also to my mars.. it must be the neptune squares giving that influence then.

  27. err sorry for being so vague, that influence being that in those im attracted to i like a certain degree of warmth and sensitivity.. maybe im just being too broad then.. uh, yeah.

    im aware that i sound confusing, so just ignore this lol

  28. Venus in Taurus – I like ’em big & solid…&/or easy on the eyes 😉 (my ultimate ideal would be someone like the wrestler Stone Cold Steve Austin…*sigh*)

    Mars in Gemini – I’m the consummate flirt & can chat up & charm a man like no one’s business, though sometimes I can be too aggressive on that front. LOL

  29. Aries Venus in the 5th conjunct Saturn. I definitely want someone who’ll fight me. Love is difficult — always has been. Luckily my Taurus Mars keeps me from becoming a stalker. Too much work.

  30. Aries Venus in the 5th conjunct Saturn. I definitely want someone who’ll fight me. Love is difficult — always has been. Easy is boring. Luckily my Taurus Mars keeps me from becoming a stalker. It would be too much work. They need to rile me up before I charge.

  31. Venus in Gemini here – supposed to be a flirt, but I don’t flirt with just anyone. I do love to talk, though. A man who can’t hold up his end of a conversation would bore me to tears. Mars in Leo – I do like to role-play, especially in private. And I still really enjoy sex – even at 60.

    My sweetie in Venus in Cancer – loves big breasts (I have that) and I make him feel safe because I’m very reliable and not reactive. We never fight. His Mars in Scorpio makes him sexy, but private about it, which is fine with me. And when the lights go down (never off) he takes good care of me.

    With him I get to be the lady in the parlor and a whore in the bedroom and nobody’s the wiser. In the kitchen, though he’s the chief cook and bottle washer. Can’t beat that.

  32. I have Venus in Pisces (in the 7th), Mars in Sadge. I want affection and love. I get it by going to bars and being gregarious, off-the-cuff, flirtatiously feisty. Wow have I got myself a reputation in a small town like this. Yowza.

  33. Venus in Taurus (I would say I have in inclination towards beautiful, masculine men) squaring Mars and opposing Uranus

    Mars in Leo (I show off or express myself dramatically to get the man).

    Not the case with my boyfriend though. haha!

  34. 2nd H Libra Venus and I do like a man who appreciates…well, me, first of all! 🙂 Also things like food and wine, must write well and punctuate properly. He has to like music and be able to talk to a lot of people and be socially acceptable. Also I really like to be the girl in all this. I have a 12th H Virgo Mars and from what I can understand, mostly men like me for bringing them into a magical otherworld of pure love that they’ve never experienced. They all tell me that no one has ever loved them like I have. They’re right about that– I’m very devoted.

    BF is Venus in Taurus. He loves having a steady relationship and above average physical affection. I’ve got an Aries 8th H cusp, so he keeps me fired up with his…Mars in Aries. He’s constantly humping me like a dog! The rest of the time we are always touching and curled up together and hand in hand. Wrapped up in bed I fall asleep in about 30 seconds– and I’ve always needed space in bed with everyone else.

  35. My Venus and Mars are conjunct, both in Gemini in the 11th house.

    For me, what drives me, and keeps me happy is a social life, communicating with friends, and being stimulated on a mental level. It ain’t happening unless I get that. I need to feel the friend thing before I can become attached romantically.

  36. Miss a day miss a lot on this blog. Something said to me, type in elsaelsa – lol. Actually it was better that I was able to read through all these entires because I got a sense of what the the venus mars in the chart is saying. Elsa, thanks for explaining that venus is your taste and mars is how you get it. I was alway stold that venus showed what kind of woman a man wants and mars showed what kind of man a woman wants. Lots of venus in aries readers, what does that say about the attraction to the Elsa P blog? Anyway, someone earlier said they like dark, passionate, unavailable men-venus in scorpio. yep that’s me. I don’t have to use my mars in leo at all, they just come to me like magnets. 🙁 Now if I could just get rid of the unavailable part or just accept that I like my freedom. My progressed venus just went direct a couple years ago so I hope that will help. To get what I want though, I’d say I am very “fun” which helps me in relationships. I think I should use more of my mars in leo to get what I want!

  37. MzScarlett – believe it or not it is possible for these things to happen. My SO was told that he needed to get OUT OF THE HOUSE as a woman wasn’t going to just walk in and say “let’s date” (He’s very tied to his home business and computers).

    And friends tried to drag him out to meet women all the time. He didn’t go. I got back to the country and then back to the city and walked into his house one day and pretty much said “let’s date” Actually I told him that if he wanted to keep flirting with me he’d better take me on a proper date. So it CAN come with the pizza boy.
    Weirder things have happened.

  38. Venus Pisces, Mars Cancer. I like love? And I take care of them. With the current SO I repair his house and build him a garage. He is a venus cancer and a mars sag. He likes my cooking, or atleast eats quits a LOT of it, and makes me laugh laugh laugh and makes me think- which I greatly – intelligence – it’s almost a relief to have a smart guy.

  39. Virgo Venus, Mars Cancer.

    I am appreciative of clean-shaven men with good manners and organization, it’s true. I find that more than the sign, the elements here really describe the qualities that really turn me on physically — earth and water. The two hottest men I’ve ever had in my life are a Taurus Sun/Cancer Mars and a Cancer Sun/Taurus Mars. Mmph.

    I know Venus in Virgo is not the world’s most comfy placement, but I’ve been working on envisioning this energy as sexy earth goddess. I don’t have any other earth in my chart so I try to get the most out of this earthy stuff – I will WORK for my partner touch him and feed him, and I am happy to do it. A review of my exes shows that most of the guys I’ve dated have Venus in Pisces, Gemini, or Virgo, so I must radiate some mutable that was working for them (I have Gemini moon too).

    Mars in Cancer is so me. I baked a cake to wow my very first homecoming date. I drove across Texas with homemade Christmas cookies for the above-mentioned Taurus. I made prime rib and warm chocolate mini-cakes for my Cancer man for Valentine’s. The cooking thing goes without question, but Elsa, thank you for mentioning the part about fighting for women. It’s good to think my Cancer Mars is why I have great women friends and I hope I can use it to be a better advocate for women on issues like domestic violence – I need to use that skill more out in the world for the greater good. I’m also thankful my Cancer Mars gives me the energy to protect my only son, because he needs it.

  40. venus in sag- i love foreign men, all types. and they have to be relaxed, have survival skills, and have fun!

    mars in aries- i usually go direct. don’t waste time. ‘hi guy!!

    problem: i use this in friendship, love, men, women- so i have learned that sometimes should be modified- otherwise people may think you are hitting on them, when you are just being friendly! shooting fire isn’t easy…

  41. Venus Pisces and Mars in Capricorn – I am sometimes a cold fish…..but i love to love…and my baby just loves to dance….hmmmmm

    My hubby is Venus Pisces as well and Mars aries…he is really quite insatiable which is the way I like it really…

  42. Venus conjunct Mars in Taurus (and house 4), but very close to Aries. Both Mars and Venus are opposite Uranus (which is in house 11), but sextile the Moon (house 2 or three, cusps considering).

    As a newbie, I’m curious about what this means. I do have a habit of tending to be attracted to men with issues (I blame it partially on Neptunian issues), but these days I steer clear of them.

    Anyway, I’m interested in how I should interpret this.

  43. Also have my mars cancer and venus virgo ( moon gemini) I seek romantic and caring relationship with a man. I want a man sensitive (not to much) (like I met once that was a disaster) but I need to feel forceful in him. I really wants to be at his service but not like a slave and because I m romantic I will see in him a kind of god that I wish to Please and then… they got married and had lots of children…BUT I have my moon square venus in 12th house…and I don t konw yet what sort of trouble I should expect (since my venus 3°virgo)???

  44. This is so interesting- thank you Elsa, for addressing this for us newbies! OK… Venus in Aries (5th house) – I want FUN! No drama relationships for me! Mars in Pisces (4th house) – So, don’t come on too strong (I don’t need a Daddy)! I’ve always been attracted to manly-men, but in my past, they ended up also be controlling (ick)- I’m happiest now, with my Tauras hubby- he allows me to be me and if I’m silly or quirky, he loves it and makes me laugh at myself!

  45. Mars in Cancer in 9th house.
    I cook a feast for people to get what I want. It’s Jupiter flavoured so I always over do it.
    Venus in Gemini in 7th house conjuncting Moon opposite Uranus.
    I talk and flirt without realising it. I talk about food and home a lot.
    The guys I’m interested in has to be polite, well-dressed and sweet.

  46. I have Moon/Mercury conjunct Venus in Cancer opposition Mars in Capricorn in the 12th. I feel like I want the Gemini stuff from a man, fun and interesting conversation rather than traditionalism, his not being a lemming (like some people with Sun in Cancer are). I don’t know why it doesn’t show in my chart. I also try to joke around and flirt when I want someone and am at my ease. What does my Venus/Mars have to do with it?

    I attract men that have a water or earth sun, but I don’t want that. I don’t want someone calm, quiet, or submissive either. Quiet is the worst.

  47. Venus in Scorpio in the 1st house. Geesh. Mars conj. Mercury in 2nd in Sag. Once I set my sights on one of those intense types (in the old days), I guess I just talked the pants off them.

  48. Venus/Mars conjunct in Aries/4th.

    I want the man I have. He’s very passionate, affectionate very loving, not a coward, and emotional. (He has Venus in Leo; Cancer in Mars). A gentleman. All the other stuff (ie. conversation, personality) is kind of a given to me so I didn’t add it. But PASSION is key. Joie de vie.

    How do I get it…I demand it. Mostly to myself though. I can see pretty quick if I’ll get it (conjunction is trine Neptune) and if it’s not going to happen I float off. I don’t give men a lot of chances, they need to be quick on the draw, I hope that doesn’t sound arrogant I’m just trying to paint a truthful picture.

    The last 2 men I’ve loved have had significant Scorpio, which I think is a nice match for Aries placements.

  49. Heh, if i like a guy, i tend to disappear (venus in the 12th) — he can’t SEE ME. You can see how this doesn’t do wonders for my love life…

    My ex is cancer sun/aries moon and mars. He saw me across a crowded room, literally, and decided i would be his (LOL) and it did happen, but a couple years later. I don’t know how he saw me or what he saw —

    I have mars in cancer – i like a nurturing mothery guy, I like to be/feel protected —

  50. Hmmm. Venus Aquarius sq MC/IC. I love going against the status quo, learning about other beliefs and lifestyles. Teach me, and I will love you. Hubby is from a completely opposing background from mine.

    Mars is complicated. 12H cap conjunct moon and apexing several tsq. How do I get what I want? I manipulate you into letting me organize you into submission. 🙂

  51. Aries Mars and Taurus Venus, but now I’m confused because my MO is more Venusian and Mars is whom attracts me! Is that a Libra rising thing?

    If I’m really, really attracted I am nothing but direct with the person. I’ll stay firm on my patch, which has the most beautiful grass and flowers, batting my lashes while placidly grazing. They have to make the first move and quickly at that!

  52. Venus in 2H Cancer likes men who are in touch with their emotions and who provide a certain level of physical safety (never boring, though – Uranus in Libra here at the focus of a T square!)

    Mars conjunct will cook for the man in my sights and otherwise make him feel at home and cared for

  53. Venus in aquarius so I like intelligent offbeat (perhaps even somewhat dorky) kind of men
    for example the hubby : a engineer by trade, loves to wrench on classic cars yet sews and makes quilts.

    Leo in mars – turn up the charm and my naturally bubbly (if somewhat moody) personality comes out.

  54. Venus in late Sag conjunct Mars in Cap (conjunct Sun & Mercury in Cap – 8th house stellium)

    Attracted to men who have travelled or are foreign, are educated, have a positive outlook and a good sense of humor, are adventurous, like sports and the outdoors, and are spiritually or philosophically oriented.

    The way I go about getting them is by interviewing them and weeding out candidates, analyzing (Moon in Virgo in trine to the stellium)to see if they “fit” in my life and, if they do, then by tantric, soul-blending (8th house) sex. A tried and true method (Capricorn).

  55. I have venus in taurus and mars in cancer.
    I am very attracted to men with pretty, feminine faces. Those with long lashes and luscious hair and sparkly eyes and smoothly chiselled jawlines. Ben Barnes and Kevin Zegers are perfect examples.

    Some girls require guys to be their friends first. Not to me.. in fact it’s quite the opposite. I have to be able to think of them first in a sexual way before I know I’m attracted to them. If I can’t imagine myself being in bed with them or even just caressing them, then it’s never gonna happen. It’s really primal. I guess it’s my venus in the 8th house. The moment I think of a guy as a friend, then he will stay there in that category forever and I will never be attracted to them romantically.
    Friends and lovers are always separate for me and don’t ever collide.

    With my mars in cancer.. I am not sure how I go about chasing guys.. I guess I don’t chase them at all. I just wait and wait for them to make a move. So passive it really sucks. I am not the domestic, maternal type though like those descriptions i’ve been hearing about this mars placement. I am far from exhibiting all those characteristics.
    I am perceived by my guy friends as a cold-hearted bitch. Though they also think I’m one of the guys… then again they’re not the ones I get involved with so of course they never see my emotional side.
    My Mars square my mercury so I can be sharp-tongued when threatened. My mercury is stronger than my mars and it’s my ruling planet so I appear more “mercury in aries” than “mars in cancer”.

  56. Mars in Scorpio 26’32 5th house

    OOB Venus Capricorn 2’01 7th house conjunct Descendant Sagittarius

    Mars Decile Venus

    I wonder with Venus being at 2′ if I could tend to be more like Venus in Sagittarius then Venus in Capricorn? The descriptions seem to fit me to quite an extent.

    Usually the guys I’ve dated tend to be very creative,intelligent,playful and sensitive people in one way or another and many that I’ve dated have had a temper along with being sort of moody,dark, and wounded emotionally in some way…generally strong Uranus,Pluto and Neptune influences

    I tend to be shy,but quietly flirtatious at the same time… at first. Usually I wait for them to approach me. Though,mostly, “I” don’t even know what I’m going to do. I’m unpredictable to myself when it comes to interactions with the opposite gender or at any time for that matter.:-)

    I’m married now. He has Venus Rx in Aries 9th Mars in Sagittarius 4th with Mars Sesquiquadrate Venus and he is very intelligent,creative,emotional and playful

  57. Great site 🙂 I have venus in Aqua (conjunct sun), mars in Cancer and moon in Scorpio. Strange combination. I’m usually attracted to cancer and taurus guys and i attract leos for some reason. My crush is cancer sun, pieces moon, mars & venus in taurus. He doesn’t know i exist though 🙂 He is very artistic and a little stubborn (he’s also in a long term relationship, i think). I think it’s a little hard to find the right person when my birth chart is all over the place 🙂

  58. Venus in Libra, Mars in Gemini.
    I have no idea what I want:
    Maybe a fair, affable, well mannered man who can compromise (this person sounds a little boring…) and I get to him through persuasion (talking)?

    I read somewhere that venus in Libra are “attractive to the opposite sex, no matter how they look. ” This clashes with my lived experience completely and contradicts other things I have read about Libra females e.g. being jolie laide.

    Since my Moon is in Libra would I want someone who has their Mars in Libra???

  59. Venus in Virgo shows that I like humble, intelligent men, especially if they’re in touch with their Spiritual and Artistic side (Neptune trine), and are unafraid to explore the depths (Pluto sextile).
    Mars in Aries is a go-getter but the poor guy is afflicted (squared by Chiron, Neptune, Uranus and Saturn) so I kinda chase the man and then back off out of fear (Saturn) and THEN completely freak out.

  60. Venus in Virgo likes quiet men with an understated sense of humor and style. Mars in Scorpio goes about getting them by attracting. Sometimes withholding. Giving them just enough of my sexuality to keep them interested. Trapping them in my sexual web basically.

  61. Venus in Capricorn 5H: no matter what they do or how uncorporate they appear, I like a tidy appearance (I kinda like big guys), good at what they do (no matter what), and can talk about anything (sucker for music-lovers).

    Mars in Virgo 1H: I can be a bit assertive but on the reserved side. I kind of like the chase and dance.

  62. I have Venus in Aries (9th) & Mars in Aquarius (7th).
    If I’m understanding this right I want someone who is active and I’ll try to get them through using intelligence?
    [Not sure where to find keywords to help me figure this stuff out.]

  63. I have my sun in Scorpio and mars in Scorpio, my partner has his sun in cancer and mars in Scorpio too. His Venus is in cancer and mine in Virgo….please tell us could this be a perfect match!

  64. My venus and mars are conjunct in Libra, 4th house. Homebody yes. My Aquarius husband with Aries rising is ever challenging and my best friend. We have gone places and shared experiences that i never dreamed of and made a good but boring life together. Ready for the next phase. Thank you Elsa for all you bring to the table.

  65. Venus in scorpio mars in cancer in a lovely trine.
    I love intense, plutonean, spiritual deep types…did I mention intense?
    When in love I am soft sweet and nurturing. Different in the bedroom (this Virgo likes to be in charge hehe)
    Current interest is cancer with venus in cancer, mars in aries. He chased me all over the place. Loves my curves. Deeply nurturing and spiritual. Both of us have virgo Plutos in the 12th.
    Needless to say our kinky demons should play very well together ?

    • Does he have a water moon? There might not be anything behind the care if he doesnt :/
      My favorite is mars in cancer 😀 i have venus in cancer

  66. Venus in Sag in the 7th House, Mars exalted in Capricorn in the 8th House…A roving eye, but seeking deep spiritual connection…

  67. Venus in Cancer in 9th = ? Maybe I like homebodies who live far away??? (I actually do prefer live-apart relationships)
    Mars in Libra in 12th = I do nothing to go after them. If they’re not interested in me, then so be it. But this passive approach has not often has good results b/c I can only “choose” from whatever comes along. Since I’m not exactly a beauty queen, that reduces to something like 0,5% of male population including freaks & other disturbing types. I’d rather take this humorously…

  68. ok .. this is one of the things I just can’t wrap my head around! I got Mars and unaspected Venus in taurus, which should mean that I like sturdy, good looking, hands-on men and while I do like such traits and find them relevant to me they are NOT what gets me going . . what gets me going is fiery men (specially with some aries energy going on). Now I have absolutely nada in aries and rather diluted characteristics of the other fire signs (leo saturn in 8th, neptune sag in 1st house). Most of the times I find I go after thru my neptuny sag asc (friendly, empathetic, compassionate, philosophical) . . what am I missing here??

    • What are your mars aspects? Prob an astrologer can tell you or if you ask the forum

      I have venus in cancer and i dont cook for men or wear dresses so stereotypes yo…

      • hi Kri, thanks for the comment, you ‘ve hit something there . . my mars has a tough aspect to Saturn and . . pretty much nothing else, so maybe this is how it all unravels. Would you mind sharing how is your venus expressed in this context? Do you find its aspects color it more powerfully than its zodiac place?

        • It’s hard for me to say. I have venus tightly opposed mars and trine jupiter and quincunx uranus and will not take someone on a first date to my house or whatever. It’s not that stereotypical.
          But, i do enjoy frank confessional music like this dude i was talking to with moon in cancer (i like lou barlow, angel olsen, mountain goats.. anything searing and personal.) Im super bad at flirting (my air sun acts up and i tend to become an insult comic and tease the guy). I often wear clothing that hides my boobs and is sort of businessy and protects me in some way (blazers, black, doc martens.) Can be self protective and childish also not very sultry.. Just have problem attracting guys i guess and when i date them i try to be personal. I think my venus tends to come out when a dating thing or relationship is established.. i become oddly very physical like maggie the cat, sometimes sulky, i do like to go to restaurants and buy food. Think i dont lure people with my venus. It shows up later in a relationship, due to the mars opposition it is weirdly impetuous and self sabotaging and private

          • Also, usually only people with air or fire venuses have liked me.. i routinely strike out with venus in taurus (i dont smell that good and i talk really fast) and venus in cancer. Venus in scorpio has been working for me cause since my pluto transit i open up quickly

          • On the one hand I would want to say thanks for supporting my opinion that things aren’t that stereotypical, on the other hand Elsa said that it is your Mars, who decides what you do. So you inviting people to your house isn’t expected from the stereotypical point of view. With your Mars in opposition would you rather be expected to do something typical for Capricorn with those people, who your Venus likes because they invite you into their houses. I’m very weak in the earth element, so I don’t have a well-defined idea what Capricorn would do on a date. Perhaps go mountain climbing?
            While most people think that a Taurus Venus should definitely like a Capricorn Mars and vice versa, I’d rather look for the Sun’s position. Thus an air Venus liking an air Sun isn’t surprising.

    • I’d also like to understand this. Is either your Mars or your Venus within the very first degrees of Taurus? Is your Sun or Moon or Vertex or DC in a fire sign? Does nada in Aries include love asteroids (in particular Psyche and Eros) and the Sun/Moon-midpoint?

  69. My Venus in Aquarius my mars in Taurus my Lilith in taurus my ascent in Aquarius , please look in my sky
    Who might I be looking for
    I’ve been chatting with designer Latino born in Germany
    In architecture worked in Asia and southern U. S. Very religious
    Is there a snowball chance in hell
    For French Indian who requires the outdoors abhors shoes?

    • Me too! Venus Aries/Mars Scorpio. I’m attracted to very few men. When one does finally catch my eye, he usually has a strong/charismatic/fun personality… I’ll secretly pine for him from afar, waiting patiently for just the right moment to make my move. Then when I finally do – I’m usually sadly disappointed when I find his lack of emotional depth. Total turnoff…. Frustrating!

  70. Does any of the mentioned methods really work? Offer her a drink, such a stereotype and already the stereotype for failing! Offer her a home cooked meal, but who would just accept this nowadays? Manipulate her into his bed, but how??? This not only puts the last step first, but seems to be a really bad idea. Risky and comes to me as disgusting. Although my Mars is in Scorpio, too. But my Venus in Libra prohibits this. (I wouldn’t even know how to manipulate anybody into my bed.) All air sign Venuses find love interests only in their friend zones. So what I have to do is obviously to make friends, although I suck in this. Probably not to expect, when Venus, Libra, and Seven are all strong, but perhaps shown by Libra (and consequently Aries, too) being locked-in. Have the suggested things like offering a drink ever worked with any of you?

  71. Venus in Virgo Ascendant. I like to treat my body with respect. I like to obtain material objects for sensual gratification.

    Mars in Aries 8th H. I have the energy to spook people. I am lazy but when I am at it nothing can stop me.

  72. Cancer Venus. Gotta be comfortable and safe. Trines Pisces mars that loves romance. Both are satisfied in the arms of Mother Nature. As far as the intriguing other worldly relationships, recent back and forth on this site has me decided that I can enjoy those all encompassing magical experiences. However, I cannot bring them down to the emotional level. There is no place there for them. I can’t own them. Saturn in Scorpio trines mars and venus. A shared relationship and experiences, not owning the person. To the next magical mystery tour! Cheers!

  73. My Mars is in Libra, My Venus is in Sag. I am attracted to a sense of humor and I use my wit , to attract men that have one. IF they cant make me laugh and I cant make them laugh. Its a no go. Even though I have so much scorpio I think the mars in libra gives me a bit of a soft edge.
    My late husband had a Virgo moon and mars, Aqau venus. We actually did very well together. I have gone over the charts of men that I was totally enamored with and they turned out to have virgo moons. So strange.

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