I have an identical twin sister. We always fight, and our arguments get so heated! Most of the time, my sister is the one who starts the bickering and elevates it to extremes.
We are identical twins, but I feel so strongly that we are different. How do we stop fighting and finally start getting along? What is the cause of our strife?
I don’t think this problem is necessarily twin related. With Mars (anger, fighting) conjunct Pluto (intense) in your charts, both you and your sister have copious amounts of intense energy which will find expression one way or the other. And if you don’t find a healthy way to channel this energy, you are going to wind up ripping someone a new one… period.
Now I imagine it’s your sister (or in her case, you) who suffers the attacks simply because you are the person in proximity. And although this could exacerbated by the fact you are a mirror images of each other, I think this is irrelevant when it comes to the solution – which is this:
One or both of you will have to stop looking at the other and become aware of all the energy you have churning around in your gut all on your own. One has nothing to do with the other.
Once you understand this… that you have gobs of energy to manage and direct in ways that are healthy, you can start choosing to aim your gun somewhere other than at your sister’s head. And it really is this simple, but you must find some way to express this energy.
Mars wants to compete. Mars wants to fight and to be a hero. Pluto wants passion. Can you think of something to do with this energy, besides have passionate fights with your mirror image? Of course you can.
Go do something authentically heroic. As soon as you do… and as soon as you both learn how powerful you really are, you’ll be able to use your energy to empower each other – rather than the current scenario that is so destructive – and you will amazed at the awesome results.
I am willing to bet this story has a happy ending.
I also have Mars conjunct Pluto in Libra. It took me a long time to learn to deal with my anger and I’m still trying to work out the other parts of that energy. I wish you nothing but the best and hope you find something that works for you.
One thing I have to point out, though, is you say that usually your sister starts the bickering. Why respond to her? It’s your choice on whether to take the bait she’s dangling, to argue or not.
I don’t know anything else about your situation, but I know that, for me, when the person I’m angry with responds in a calm, rational manner it often diffuses my ire. I realize that when your back is up you are more than ready to go for the throat, but if your sister is the one that is baring her teeth, perhaps you should be the one to remain calm. (Balance, you know. It’s a Libra thing. ;)) And, maybe, if this works for you both, she will learn how to do the same for you.
Hope this helped in some way. Much luck!
i also had the conjunct in scorpio, i easily lose my temper(like exploding all the time), but i find hard to express it well. this frustrates me very much,