There was a time when I was very happy with my man. I could see us being together until we grew old. Well time went on, and he ended up cheating on me. Not once, not even twice, but three times!
Ever since then, things have not been the same. I say I’ve forgiven him, but I don’t feel the same about him or us. It’s been a few years since he first cheated, and I’m utterly miserable. I don’t leave now for the same reasons I didn’t leave then: I’m comfortable where I am.
I do still love him, just not like before. Most of all, I’m scared. I’m so fearful of what will happen if I go out on my own that it paralyzes me into staying in a relationship that is essentially over. And it’s not just over on my side, either. He’s not as affectionate or loving as he used to be. He throws himself into work and I hardly see him at all.
It’s gotten so bad, that the unthinkable has happened. I’ve gone and found myself someone who is willing to give me all the attention and affection that I need/crave/desire. But now, on top of everything else, I am riddled with guilt over what I am doing.
How can I get out of this rut?
You’ll get out the minute you decide to get out. Yours is a problem of indecision – the Libra curse! You can’t decide whether to be in or to get out. I can’t decide for you but perhaps I can tweak your perspective enough to help you find your way.
You think you’re caught between two poles. Do you stay, or do you go? But really there are three places to be. You can also be in the middle which is where you are now. How do you like it? Because you can stay right where you are. Forever!
This reminds me of an old Gary Larson cartoon. There’s a picture of a guy in a boat in the middle of an otherwise deserted lake. He’s sitting there looking completely perplexed.
“Fish? Or cut bait? Fish? Or cut bait? Fish? Or cut bait?”
Is that guy going to spend his whole life asking that question or is he going to pick a side? And what about you?
It’s perfectly acceptable to be an indecisive person. You can embrace this as a lifestyle. You can watch the people around you choose left or choose right while you stay in that boat with your question.
If you don’t like this idea, then pick a side! Stay or go and rest assured, whichever you choose, your indecision will reconstitute. Because this is your nature. “Should I have gone, or should I have stayed?”
Libra struggles to make decisions. That doesn’t mean it has to it disable you.