A lot of crummy things have occurred in society at large and on a more personal level with my family. Terrible things have been said and done relating to the pandemic, vaccine status, etc. I know how astrology relates to the actual events but how do I forgive? Or will I ever even be able to forgive? Are there any specific transits relating to this? Either something which might be blocking me being able to forgive or anything coming up I can work with to soothe my soul and help me to do so? I know an apology would help immensely but that’s not going to happen.
I’m mid 40s in South Texas.
What a great question! Jupiter rules forgiveness. But I want to get into your note because there are a lot of people stuck in similar circumstance. If this seems harsh in any way, it’s unintentional.
A lot of crummy things have occurred in society at large and on a more personal level with my family. Terrible things have been said and done relating to the pandemic, vaccine status, etc.
This is true! So you can opt to forgive or you can opt to withhold forgiveness. Don’t kid yourself about this. It’s isn’t that you can’t forgive, it’s that you don’t want to. You’re hurt? You’re angry. It’s understandable but these feelings are internal to you.
I know how astrology relates to the actual events but how do I forgive?
I can think of a number of ways to approach this. First, Jupiter type people are “bigger than that”. They are not petty!
I’m not saying that you’re petty. It’s seems you’d like an apology but you know it’s (probably) not coming so you’re stuck. Do you like being stuck? If not, why would you let this other person who has already hurt you, continue to jack your life up because they won’t apologize?
You’re in a petty state, agreeing to be oppressed! You’re agreeing to remain agitated and angry. It has to be this way because you’re the one in the position to forgive. You’re making this contingent on the other person.
As for “how”, you can look at the big picture (Jupiter). These person(s) may have seriously wronged you but what else have they done in their life? Some good things?
We’re they confused, misinformed, tricked?
If you start thinking along these lines, you see how the door cracks open.
If you still need help, think about a scenario where you’ve wronged someone. Would you like them to judge you on this one error? Or should they look at the whole of who you are?
Forgiveness comes around. If you’re not willing to forgive, you should not expect to be forgiven. Also, think about standing in front of God, asking for forgiveness. God says, what about what you did to, Sally?!
Hey! I wouldn’t risk it. It’s far easiet to forgive and go on your way. It’s graceful and it will set you free. Seems a pretty good deal to me!
Are there any specific transits relating to this?
Maybe. Let’s say you tend to be unforgiving. Then you have a Jupiter transit – you feel large and generous and benevolent and you forgive. But you don’t need a transit to forgive!
Either something which might be blocking me being able to forgive or anything coming up I can work with to soothe my soul and help me to do so?
It sounds like you’re hurt and I understand. Not a day goes by where I don’t feel hurt! But I just don’t want to spend my days with a chip on my shoulder so I knock the chips off as soon as they appear.
As for your soul, ask yourself if withholding forgiveness is soothing. It doesn’t make sense that a feeling person like you, would enjoy carrying this burden.
I know an apology would help immensely but that’s not going to happen.
This may be the sticking point for you and it’s about control. It sounds like you were right and they other person was wrong. You want them to say so but you may be waiting forever, why?
There is a significant percentage of people who can’t apologize. They is an even larger percentage of people who cannot admit they were wrong.
If you can’t forgive, you’re in a similar trap. Luckily, forgiveness is easy (once you decide to offer it). It’s also free.
I hope you do this, right now, today. Just say, into the wind, “Hey! I got hurt, but I forgive you!” I don’t see a loss for you should you choose to do this.
Jupiter is also about higher education. I used the free bird on this post because check this out: what if forgiving this situation is the hardest thing you ever do… but you never have to do it again? What’s if this is the actual big picture here? You forgive this, then realize you’re permanently unencumbered with the inability to forgive.
The last thing that comes to mind is your struggle may be tied to your lack of faith (Jupiter). If you believe there’s a larger forces that settle things like this, then you truly have no reason to carry this weight.