Thanks everyone for your good wishes. We appreciate it! We’re both happy as hell and I’ll tell you more as soon as we’re settled down.
I know most would be curious as to why I am writing on my blog the day after I got married and it’s simple. The soldier has to leave tomorrow (or Monday it we are extra lucky) and he has some things to do that require complete attention before he goes so he’s doing that and I am doing this and he’s done we’ll go back to hibernating until he has to leave.
I feel unfit (too distracted) to work on consultations or one of the charts for the class, so I am postponing that work until he is gone but I can write blogs (by the thousands) or story tell pretty easily so here I am.
Last week I wrote Always The Bridesmaid, Never The Bride.. etc. We’ve been talking about the Venus Pluto (and Saturn) aspect as well (Love Karma). There is also a on the boards and I something new that ties all this together… along with my wedding for that matter.
It is my strong experience lovers come back from the dead when Venus aspects Pluto, this never fails in my case. Many of you know that before the soldier and I got together a few years ago I was with a man I called, The AMF. He was a Scorpio with Mercury and Scorpio and Venus conjunct Saturn in Scorpio. I split his Scorpio like that because it’s split in his chart that way… Sun Mercury in the 9th, Venus Saturn in the 8th.
With a configuration that you might consider him a high-minded Scorp with dark, burdensome love life and it would not that far off. In whatever case, he was blunt (9th house) and insightful (Scorpio) and I spent 3 years with him before he broke up with me and the soldier and I came together. 2 years later (a year ago) his next (ex)girlfriend contacted me.
He had broken up with her and she was devastated, asking for help and/or insight. It put me in a hell of a position.
I am a very loyal person, even if you happen to be my ex-boyfriend or perhaps especially because you are my ex-boyfriend but I am also a woman who helps women so I felt I had to do something. I had to answer her at least and when I answered her I was going to have to say something so this is what I did.
I tried to help her while not betraying him and felt I did “okay” on that front although it was murderous for me. There were just a couple or 3 emails exchanges and I was very relieved when I was able to wrap this up. If you wonder how this might be possible…. well if you are a woman who has ever been left by a stellium in Scorpio then you know how bad this feels and one of her concerns was that he had gone back to be with me which is why I really had to write her.
Think about it. She’s up all night thinking her boyfriend went back to his ex… I’d have had to be some kind of bitch not to let her off that hook so I did. I told I was not with him, would not be with him… and that I was with a man I loved deeply so she should have no concerns… ::sighs::
So now it’s a year later and I heard from her again. She said she was going through old emails to delete and she came across mine.
She wrote me to tell me she was doing well and to thank me for writing her a year ago. She said it helped pull her through a very dark time and she was now with a man she loved… he was very solid and she was happy. I wrote her back to tell her I’d just married and this is when it hit me…
As I said, the AMF was extremely smart and also very candid. We talked extensively of 8th house type things, psych and patterns and such and he told me once that every time he had a significant relationship with a woman, the man AFTER him turned out to be the one they were truly matched with. It was stunning statement seeing as he had two marriages, one for 16 years, another for 7 but now I think he was right.
He theorized that he excavated various things from a woman’s psyche that were precursor to her being able to form a lasting bond with an appropriate partner. He wondered aloud if this were not his purpose and he was not exactly complaining.
“No need for you to worry about us breaking up,” he said. “If I break up with you, the next man you meet will be the on you want to spend your life with…”
I could not tell you for sure if this bothered him or not and if it did, to what degree. He was an Aquarius Moon and rising so quite freedom-loving and detached in spite of this clear expression of his 8th house Venus/Saturn. I know he didn’t crave the situation but he did cop to the fact that it was typically HIM doing the breaking up so he really had nothing to say about it and here is the point I want to make:
You read in (good) astrology books about Scorpio energy empowering and/or transforming others but no one gives you an example how this works so I just filled this void, huh?