“I am amazed at how different it is for my son with you here,” I told the soldier. “You only had to be around for a few hours for it to become very clear how much he lacks… there is no male energy here.”
He didn’t say anything.
“For example he’s got a problem with this pack of boys. He’s struggling with that and I mention it to you and you explain this whole thing… how one chicken gets pecked by all the other chickens. You outline bullying and know how to combat it. Basically you know what to do in a pack of boys where I don’t know much about being in a pack of boys. And even if I do have some idea I still don’t know how to handle the situation as a boy.”
“Well no, you wouldn’t.”
“Right. All I can do is be a woman and say women things like what? Oh don’t let that bother you?” I laughed. “Jeez. Big help, Mom. It’s not much help compared to what you can tell him and you see he is just plain hungry for whatever it is you have. It would be like you having a daughter by yourself. About all you can do is give her some blush and say, I think this goes on your cheeks.”
“I don’t even know that much,” he said.
“Yeah, it’s a mess. I ache over this. Over knowing what my son has not had access to. I am just not sure how these kids are supposed to cope without access to male and female energy and no matter how motivated you are or how much you may want to provide for your kids, you can really only be what you are. And I just have no way to masquerade as a man. My poor kid. He has Aries. He is full of all this male energy and stuck here with a mom who basically looks at him and says whaaaaat?”
(For the record, my son’s father is inordinately involved… he is just a very yin man, an artist, a twelfth house Sun and just no Aries influence at all.)
Did you grow up with access to both yin and yang energy or no? How were you impacted?