I just love your blog! I like your insightfulness and your straightforwardness: no beating about the bush! Your posting on the mars-scorpio-sex-OCD-connection touched me! A wonderful example of how directness and empathy can go hand-in-hand, indeed!
I am an Aries with Scorpio rising myself, so I do relate to this urge to” express the body”, which you write about in above mentioned blog. Actually, I would just love to be able to do this daily (or even better: more then just daily!!!) However, for some bizarre reason the men in my life feel different.
My last boyfriend decided he could not have sex with me anymore, ever since he became a committed Buddhist this summer. Another very close male friend of mine flatly refuses to have sex with me as well, even though we love each other dearly- which makes our relationship resemble that of Will & Grace, though he is by no means gay.
Going back into my past I can find more examples… of sex interfering in the development of a stable relationship. What is this? Why does this happening to me? I am by no means unattractive: I am a tall, 6′ 1′, busty, skinny blonde. Why do I keep attracting men afraid of sex? Will I ever find a good man to have any kind of “normal” sex life with? Or am I being too picky and should I resort to grab just any guy straight from a bar and jump his bones? I have no intentions to become a nun…
Aries from Amsterdam
You understate your chart. You’re an Aries with a Scorpio rising all right, but you’ve also got Mars and Jupiter in Aries – and that my dear is some hot, hot fire. And when you see circumstances like this repeat in your life, I think asking why is the way to go and astrology can illuminate.
Now it seems to me the problem is with the men, not you and I’ll explain. Say you had this fiery sexy Mars situation, but Saturn was leaning on the thing. This would indicate your sex drive being thwarted and it might manifest just as you describe.
But this is not the way your chart is set up. In fact, it is just the opposite. You’re like a fast car… a fine motorcycle with nothing but open road on the horizon. And what I think is happening is you are meeting men who have various impediments in their charts, and suffering because of it. It’s as if you’re the fastest car on the road and no one who can keep up. They try, or they may want to try but they wind up eating your dust again and again until they just relent and opt to let you ride on up ahead. And you can’t do anything about them, but you can do something about you.
You can be aware of this situation. You can be aware you are the hottest hot rod out there, overwhelming to almost everyone and you can try to govern yourself. And I don’t mean, stuff your sex drive. I mean, do what I have to with my racing engine. Find as many outlets as possible so you don’t consume the people you love.
In your case, your Aries is in the 5th and 6th house. The 5th house is “fun sex” so there you go. But it is also about creativity and children so for example, you could get involved in children’s sports. Run all day with a pack of kids and maybe once-a-day sex would do it for you. And you would be satisfying your 6th house need to serve, while you’re at it.
The point is, to assert yourself (Aries) in 5th house matters and bottom line, you need a creative outlet. You need some other channel for your energy and with some of your fire discharged for the day, perhaps you can find a man who can deal with the rest. So this is my advice: Expand!