I have an anxiety. I told my Scorpio husband I wanted a divorce because I was nervous about a girl I didn’t know that he was deployed with even though she was in a relationship. He now says he wants an actual divorce.
First he kept saying it was what I wanted then he said he didn’t know if he loved me anymore. Then he said I had feelings for a guy I talk to once in a while only at work and added on Facebook. Then he said he wasn’t happy and mostly wanted to leave but he felt bad for me and didn’t want to deal with this anymore.
Is he just doing it so I feel the hurt he felt, or is he doing it cause he is serious and wants to be done? He has hurt me in the past and me him, but we always made it through. I want to work on it I always have but he never wanted to.
I wish I could say something comforting to you. I don’t want to increase your anxiety but you’re clearly going to have to clutch it up if you want a chance to save your marriage. I am not saying that you are the cause of the problem! Please read carefully. I will write carefully.
I am going with the idea that your marriage can be salvaged, based on the fact you’ve cut each other before and found your way back. But this is imperative – if you value your relationship, you are going to have to quit with all these games. YOU ARE MARRIED.
Being married (especially to a Scorpio) means that you are not friends with other men on facebook, chatting around, filling a void. I don’t care what our culture says in this era. If you want a strong marriage then focus on it and stop all these games.
Let me tell you what happens when you threaten divorce. Your partner hears this, probably more than once, and they begin to doubt your loyalty. Eventually they come to believe it’s a matter of time before you leave them. They decide to cut to the chase and get it done, seeing as it’s inevitable anyway.
Meantime, there may very well be some other woman making a play for your husband! There are women like that everywhere. Assuming you want to stay married, you’ve got to be out of your mind to weaken the bond between you, especially when he’s away from home and stressed.
Un-friend the other man, today. You want your husband to keep his vows, then keep your own vows. Let no one come between you.
And quit threatening divorce. “Till death do we part,” means divorce is not an option so why are you bringing this up?
You’re working against your own interests. It’s up you to get control of yourself. Your husband may very well be innocent. You are not. You owe him an apology. Swallow your pride and put this right.
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