How To Quit Obsessing Over Someone Not Interested In You — 81 Comments

  1. I love this. I wish I learned many many years ago not to take it personally when someone wasn’t into me. Of course, Venus in Aries never understands why a gal can’t have every man she decides to want, lol.

  2. You give an excellent example in this video of “he has venus in aquarius and so is looking for an aquarian”

    Can I assume? (or not, as that is why I am asking) that you mean someone with some strong aquarian influences in their chart? Say for example – their rising, or their saturn, moon and mars in aquarius would be as much as having their sun in aquarius? For the guy you give as an example in this?

    (sorry, it’s a virgo type day for me and I need a bit more clarity) 🙂

  3. mudlike – No I would not make a generalization like that at all. In THIS case, this guy was totally enamored with Aquarian energy – this was totally plain to see and since I don’t have any, well…

  4. You are SOOO right about this, Elsa!! I have seen this in action many times. For instance, men with Venus in Taurus usually go for women with lots of curves, guys with Venus in Leo like red-heads/glamour queens, etc. Now my Aries has Venus in Pisces, so he’s happily entranced with his image of who he thinks I am . . . ::snort:: (plus I do have a Water sign rising & my Moon/Neptune conjuncts his 7th house Saturn/Neptune). 🙂

  5. This is really good advice. I can see it and feel it with all my cells.
    The first time I came across that “he’s not that into you” book, I thought it was crap. I thought: well, how does this help? It doesn’t make me feel any better.
    But your perspective is much better.

    Unfortunately when I’m hypnotized by someone I don’t think. But this will change! Honest! I will keep this in mind at all times 🙂

  6. Thanks for this great advice, Elsa. So, do you find that Venus indicates a man’s type, and Mars what a woman’s type is?

    Neith, you’re so right on about a Venus in Leo guy I know who’s obsessed with redheads. How the heck….?? Wouldn’t you figure they’d want someone with GOLD hair?

    As a Venus in Leo myself, I’ve gone both ways… gold and red hair 😉

  7. Valkyrie – again, no I don’t think it is anywhere near as simple as lining up Venus signs. This is one specific case.

  8. I love this idea, it’s quite liberating and optimistic and I try to keep it in my mind. However, I see time and time again that it is just not that easy! It’s crushing to be rejected by someone you want and I think most people translate a rejection into thinking something is wrong with them in some way. This, in turn, speaks to a deep fear of not being lovable, which I think we all have at times. Nobody wants to feel unworthy and unlovable, so they cling to the unhealthy and unfulfilling. It’s sad. I wish more women could see this.

  9. I’ve done my share of grinding on myself because the object of my affection hasn’t returned my feelings. That’s been true in relationships, career, and many other areas. Despite all the angst I put myself through in the process, after I’m able to get a little distance, without exception I’ve always been able to look back and see how incredibly fortunate I’ve been that things played out the way they did.

    I don’t know exactly where it comes from in astrological terms or in my chart, but the lesson I’ve gotten from it is that as long as I operate under the illusion that I have to try to be something that I’m not in order to deserve what I want (and need), things can’t possibly go well. Rather, the world needs the unique things each of us can offer. Can’t say its sunk in quite to the level that I’d like, but that’s ok too.

  10. I like that Marc, that’s what I’m trying to let sink in too… If I feel like I have to contort myself to win her, then, how is this going to work long-term anyway? And why do that to myself? Too exhausting.

  11. Oh, it took me years when I was younger to figure this one out. Why? Because with Aries rising, A Libra Moon, and a Leo Sun, it was impossible for me to wait for someone who was into me. I was always on the hunt! 😉 Well, after a while, the Queen got tired of the hunt, and toned it down a lot.

    Now, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with taking the lead. This is where a lot of those silly women’s self-help books trip up. But–and here’s the rub–being the hunter only works when the guy wants to pursue something with you. If not, put all that energy to better use.

  12. Oh, and here’s how that Aries/Libra/Leo energy expressed itself, “Dammit! There’s so much about me that’s wonderful! I want you to love and appreciate ME!!! After all, I chose you!


  13. Such good advice. I consider myself extremely lucky that I know this one intrinsically and, in fact, don’t have a choice.. I have so much Pluto and 8th house that anyone who is not intensely into something is not even a flicker on my radar. I find them invisible.
    This leaves me, unlike people with broader options, with occasional droughts. But it also means that the relationships I do have are real, long, and to the core. But, really, I would have wandered away if they hadn’t been, even just to be on my own.
    And then there was the one exception, but it was an exception because deceit was involved. I think that was my biggest lesson, even if I am still figuring out what that lesson was..

  14. they are poignant (referring to the videos on relationships/7th house, this one in particular).

    it’s the hopefullness of them. And your expression. i mean, i’ve been reading here for… i don’t know, two months or three? you are obviously a no-bullshit person. so there you are are, just putting out the information and it’s well, touching. not in a hallmark card syrup way but in a real life way. And that is poignant.

    for those who are partner-less and long to partner up, they are always looking for clues

  15. it’s weird. i left a comment, answering your question and it didn’t show up…

    but basically i said that these videos are incredibly poignant, esp because you mean what you say

  16. This video is timely. I am confounded. So what are the actual parameters of hitting the astrological love lottery? Should they match your Venus, Moon, Mars, Rising or what? Conjunctions, squares? I have lots of earth, fire and water and seem to go for what I lack…air. Which is not good because the air types are not substantial enough. I have never been able to get a satisfactory answer on this. Venus in Leo by the way. Ha Ha.

  17. OH HECK YES! 🙂 Thanks for this video Elsa!

    I used to be one of those young girls that would pine over a guy who would never reciprocate attraction. Back then, I thought something was “wrong” with me and then I spend hours and hours figuring out what’s wrong! I could’ve spent some of that time focusing on something for myself 😉

    Ah well… Live and learn, right?

  18. Right on – attraction works a lot better when it is reflected back and feeds on itself. If I’m attracted to someone who’s not attracted to me I usually notice my own attraction drops flat after a while…there’s just no fuel to sustain it and it stops being interesting to me. Same thing vice versa as well. But when it is returned my own attraction amps up big time and the whole thing intensifies. It’s like playing tennis with someone who can return the ball…much more fun, round after round.

    But I guess the line is blurrier when there is strong attraction between two people, the game is in full play and then one player steps off the court. Would some call this “not so into you”? They just stop being attracted to you? I’ve never experienced this for myself, but I wonder if anyone else has?

    Also, there is no book that defines the rules of love. Men and women can play any number of roles depending on who they are as individuals and the situations they are in. It really depends on who you are and the particular chemistry with the other person.

  19. Ana– “They just stop being attracted to you? I’ve never experienced this for myself, but I wonder if anyone else has?”

    oh god, yes. and I have so much neptune that it takes me a long time to even notice. I actually can take it a little further: I once asked a guy what the hell happened and he told me, “it’s not that I’m not attracted to you, I just don’t like you as a person.” I’m really glad I found that funny. he also went on to say, “when I met you I thought you were mysterious, but then I got to know you and it just wasn’t so.” it’s truly amazing that I didn’t piss myself laughing.

  20. just drop them?
    easier said then done.

    … for a triple taurus in the 8th
    and his aquarian venus fell on my saturn :'(

  21. This is the best advice. I was just trying to explain this very idea to a disraught stranger in a hotel the other night. I was lucky that when I was a teenager I fell for a guy who only liked asian girls. After beating my head against the wall for months, it suddenly occurred to me that no matter how hard I tried, I could never be asian. Talk about an obvious example to learn from.

  22. Basically, I completely agree with you.

    I’m not sure I agree with the other part of the theory (someone for everyone), but I am definitely with you on the not pining thing.

    I’m not sure how you could go about it any other way and stay sane.

    [‘Wow, what a depressing subject.’]

  23. Elsa I’m so looking forward reading that advice entry! That venus in aquarius guy was into me for about 6 month, I was “the one” he cooed. goes to prove the point that great compatibility otherwise may not make up for specific venus needs. (Especially since I behaved as described in my response to the “When you fall in love, do you experience fear of loss? Mild or acute and how do you handle it?” post.)uh.

  24. You know, this is really good advice and it works for friendships, too. If someone is just not that into you anymore, best to just let it go.

  25. I remember that piece about the ‘chestnut hair’. It was the biggest wakeup call to me.

    It was news to me that i didn’t have to make myself chestnut for him because someone would be looking for me with my dark hair.

    My was married to someone who was always upset that i talked to people- (He had Scorpio in like 5 planets- I have Gemini in 5 inc Sun, Mercury, Venus)

    He just kept telling me – you are TOO FRIENDLY. I embarassed him but I couldn’t help myself. He wanted me to be an observer and collector of info but Gemini is not like that. Like Elsas Purple skirt and Gold Hat guy.

    Sometimes when i tried to talk to him he would put his hand up next to his face as if it were some force field that would deflect my chattiness.

    I’m with someone now with 5 planets in Libra now and he stops people in the elevator to talk about anything I LOVE IT.

  26. That was a very interesting video. I think a person can never be too young to learn the truth of what you are saying.

    Anyway, yes, I remember wasting a year of my life as a late teenager wishing like mad that I had blue eyes, because the guy I was obsessed with at that moment (a Jewish guy, I like them) was just drawn to blue eyed women. Alas, my eyes are as dark as black ink and it took me a while to learn a) to like them because they are unique in a WASP, and b) to waste not a nanosecond on guys who don’t.

    Speaking of being a WASP, another time I very much liked a guy, a WASP himself, who was ONLY attracted to Asian women. Nothing I could say or do was ever going to change that, it was what it was but I did not like it. Anyway, I couldn’t talk him out of his preferences (Venus in Aries is intrigued by being turned down) but we ended up becoming pretty good friends.

  27. I wish I’d known that three years ago when the guy I was enormously attracted to turned out to be completely not into me. And it’s funny, but he said something opposite to what satori wrote here – that he liked me as a person, but he wasn’t attracted to me 🙂 I kept telling myself it was because I was too shy/uninteresting/socially inept etc, etc. I have Venus in Gemini in the 12th and I wish I were sociable and talkative, but can be so only with close friends and on the Internet 🙂

    He has strong Pisces in his chart, some Gemini plus Venus in Sagittarius conjunct Neptune. I’m often interested in Sagittarius/Gemini types. But he just went for Pisces/Sagittarius women who also had what he was personally lacking in his chart – Virgo. And I have none of these (Saturn and Neptune don’t count). And I hope there is a Mr/Ms Right for everyone, even though for some people it takes longer than average to find them….

  28. But, Elsa, what if you’re fat? Or what if you’re unkempt? Primping is so emphasized in our culture, playing the courting game, wearing clothing that flatters and changes you.. “Staying just as you are because someone’s looking for you..” I don’t know.

  29. Elsa says on 3/24/08 at 11:17 am:

    isabelle – good point. I just finished writing advice for someone like you, to post next week and you’re right!

    I can’t find where that post is… where is it?! thanks.

  30. This is good advice. My boyfriend and I have venus in virgo..But my blasted sag moon today I am feeling like leaving him again.
    I don’t think it is so much wanting to leave him but more like just wanting to leave and do something on my own. I am not going to leave him
    I go through this all the time..

    Do moon signs sometimes have more power than venus in virgo would because of placement ?

    My virgo sun vs my sag moon..?

  31. Elsa…you are something special! I feel like your a friend without you even knowing it. You are appreciated. By the way, I have venus in aquaries, and I am repelled by aquarian men.

  32. Too true. I went out with someone last year who I could clearly see DID NOT LIKE ME!

    I have venus in virgo and have just started seeing a virgo moon so fingers crossed. He has venus in aries and although I have not aries I do have sun conjunct mars – pretty good substitute I hope…

  33. I can never understand why someone would stay attracted to another, who is not into them. Once I find out that the other person doesn’t like me the way I like them, then in seconds I’m completely over this person and moving right along to someone who does. Venus in Sag, I love my Venus in Sag.:-)
    Great advice Elsa.Thank you.

  34. What about people who stay in situations where it’s clear another might be better for each? Like if Elsa and the Aquarius-lover had tried to tough it out? (Not that you would, Elsa, as it seems you’re too confident and insightful for such a thing!) But is there an astrological reason for staying in something that isn’t “the best”? You know, like maybe some connections that are deep but not altogether positive? I guess that’s what I’m thinking?

  35. I think this is a lot about self-respect, too, Elsa.

    If someone isn’t into you, he’s not going to be chasing you.

    If someone’s into you, but not THAT into you, it’s whether or not YOU are being honest about how you want to be treated.

    He wants companionship, he’s going to come sniffing for it. He wants sex, he’s going to come sniffing for it. YOU have to decide if you’re okay with those intentions, or if you want more from a relationship.

    Why? Because if he wants a fun romp in the sack and you’re looking for someone to settle down with? You deserve MORE than that and need to go find it.

  36. Invisible79: I want to touch upon your Gemini comment, because it’s close to home here. I just dealt with this and we’ve come to a great solution.

    My BF is a Gemini and totally a social person, of course. He sees friends constantly, is always out and about with this one and that one, and you know what? It pisses me off some times.

    Not because I want him to change or stop. But because I’m a Pisces with a Leo rising and a Leo moon. I need ATTENTION. I need to be the center of the earth sometimes. When other people are getting more attention than I am, my feathers get ruffled.

    So, yeah. We talked it out and he has learned to compromise – to give me some stroking and make a big deal about me, at some point during his networking and socializing.

    I think it is definitely possible for “incompatible” to be compatible. To be “I’m willing to compromise for you, because I love you and you’re not making me change the core of who I am.”

    The trick is that your SO has to be WILLING, and if they’re not, don’t beat your head against a wall. He’s not that into you. 😀

  37. Katie said:
    “I used to be one of those young girls that would pine over a guy who would never reciprocate attraction. Back then, I thought something was “wrong” with me and then I spend hours and hours figuring out what’s wrong! I could’ve spent some of that time focusing on something for myself ”

    I’ve never been that girl (woman) until last year… I can’t believe how I let one person affect me so much. Normally, I take things to heart, and then find a way to let it go. I know there’s no way to change someone’s thoughts or feelings about me – if they change, it’ll happen on their timetable, not mine. Now, I know a lot more of what’s going on inside that person’s head, and his reasons for acting in certain ways; I was going through a hard time, my self-esteem had already taken multiple hits, and then what happened with him… I really took it personally. I’ve never let someone in that much, only to have them disappear on me for a few months, if at all.

  38. I agree with you and… Gah. I’ve been in this position before. It’s no fun. Meanwhile, the guys I had little to no interest in, the ones who bored me to tears or creeped me out or drooled on me during a very basic kiss, chased me like hell.

    Oy vey.

    Of course, at the time that I decided not to *date* anyone and just seek new friends, I meet my husband 7 months in. Of course.

  39. I love this video & the brilliance that is Elsa. However, in my experience, I’m slow to attraction & have dated men who pine & chase after me.

  40. my best friend told me that movie “He’s Just Not That Into You” was the story of my life, and therefore I should be earning royalties on it! LOL 😛

    Now I have someone who *seemed* like he wasn’t that into me, who is suddenly wanting me back! After I had kinda tried to move on. Maybe he suddenly realized I DO have the right hair, or whatever 😉 Said he had been doing some “soul searching” about the way he had treated me… that’s sure nice because he was acting like a total jerk before!

    time will tell, can’t always rule ’em out too quickly…

  41. AWESOME advice!! Given all my Scorpio/Pisces venus unrequited love stuff…I should play this video clip a few times a day, so it stays etched in my brain

  42. This one would have really hit home five years ago when I was pining (Venus in Virgo) for someone who I thought was my “soulmate”, but who was running circles around my little brain when he wasn’t straight out rejecting me.(He was a Gemini)…the sad thing is my Venus sq. Neptune would have insisted you were wrong…and that the truth was more “spiritual” than the average person could understand or appreciate…

  43. Love it, love it, LOVE IT! So very true, and I think so much heartache could be averted if people listened to your advice, Elsa 🙂

    Of course, *my* problem is one where I can’t tell if he’s interested or not (he’s Pisces…of course! ha!)…I think he is though…*grabs her spear and makes ready for the hunt* LOL!

  44. Great Video! I just left a seemingly perfect Pisces Sun/ Taurus Moon/ Aries Venus guy because despite him chatting me up & romancing me to high heaven long distance he could not get his crap together to get on a bloody plane for 6 whole months!! He stood me up several times and lord am I ever happy I never actually waited for him at an airport.

    Are people with Venus in Aries arrogant enough to believe that they can abuse their partner infinitely and they’ll stick around for more??

    This Super Sagde Pisces Moon had enough! He also had a Leo Rising and talked about himself way too much 🙁

  45. I love this video soooo much! You’re advice about ‘not taking it personally’ is so key, but so many of my single women friends just don’t get it! They allow every disappointing relationships to chip away at their self-esteem and it’s painful to watch.

    I’m bookmarking this video and gonna force them all to watch! 😉

  46. “Oh, and here’s how that Aries/Libra/Leo energy expressed itself, “Dammit! There’s so much about me that’s wonderful! I want you to love and appreciate ME!!! After all, I chose you!””

    LMAO. I’m usually more humble, but I’d reached my limit by Mother’s Day this year, with the small number of men that I’ve had in my life over the years, and was going off on all of them in my head, and to my mother, because they screwed up something with someone so good. (Me.) I also called this one guy an idiot when he came back around, sounding more serious and wanting to move forward, pointed out that he already knew my feelings when he screwed up big-time, and why would he expect me to want him *now*? He’d made the wrong choice, and that was that. I wouldn’t normally say anything about another person’s choices, but I really had reached my limit, and I’m now 35 – I don’t have time to mess around. (I never felt that I had the time to mess around anyhow, and that’s partially why I’ve spent so much time single. I’ve known what I’ve wanted since I was a child.)

    I’m an Aries, who never seems to recognize her real worth, until I have to fight for myself, so I can see that as one of my screw-ups. I knew my worth, but didn’t trust others to recognize it, after what I’d been through when I was younger. If they did seem to recognize it, I wondered at times, how long it would be before they disappointed/hurt me. I mostly healed that part of myself, and now flip on anyone for deliberately crushing me/wasting my time and emotional energy, and breaking my heart.

  47. Oh boy is this timely. In fact, I was just drowning my sorrows about someone I’ve pursued since March. I have finally gotten the hint that he is “just not that into me”. It sucks.

    But this was heartening. Thanks Elsa.

  48. lol @ the venus aquarius guy! i’m glad he found a double aquarius in the end. So funny that aqua venus men like those quirky ladies. I should observe closely at our Double Libra Libra venus aunty, who is married to a Pisces sun/Aqua venus. I don’t know hardly any aqua venus men at all, so I need to observe how their wives are like. Probably super quirky! only females (my mother in law, sister, and my best Capricorn girlfriend growing up)

    it’s best to have compatibility! he might be looking at all the aquarius types of women. (not necessarily suns I notice, but quirky types)

    good video!!

  49. Loved this Elsa! I think all of the Libra in my chart attracts me to Venus Aquarius guys? My ex (who I wrote to you about a while back) has this. Cap with Libra Moon, Leo Rising and Venus Aquarius- Who did he lock himself into a relationship right away with? An Aquarius! He’s gained a lot of weight over the last year (as a Scorp, I’m loving it- Knowing how much his looks matter to him)- Clearly comfortable in his new relationship! And, I’ve made a decision to steer clear of that Venus placement from now on (it’s been trouble for me since high school).

  50. Leo Mars here.

    If a girl doesn’t like me, if she has various other personal reasons to change her mind or leave me…I don’t even think of her. I move on to next after a short break of being myself.

  51. Some years ago, I came across a very neat trick that I’m sure you know, Elsa. I found out that, as a woman– you want to find a man who represents the masculine planets in your chart, or your Sun and Mars. And likewise, for a man, if he can find a woman who represents his Moon and Venus. So, my Sun is in Gemini and my Mars is in Sagittarius. I’d been with a Sun Aries Moon Leo guy, unhappily. Oh, we were great friends, but that was all I wanted long term. I couldn’t help but think about a former flame, a Sun in Gemini, Mars in Aries, that I’d been most attracted to, but who had hurt me deeply, causing me to take refuge in the safe Aries/Leo friend vibe. After leaving both of these behind, I was thrilled to find love again with a Sun in Gemini/Mars in Gemini man– attraction and commitment were there in spades, but so was obsession, it turns out, and he was very controlling of me [He had Sun,Venus, Mars conj. in Gemini square Pluto in Virgo that conj. my Sun, ASC in Gemini]. I don’t recommend that your Sun conjunct the other person’s Venus/Mars-Pluto square! I felt drowned, unable to be myself, and my freedom was hard won from this entanglement, but I promised myself I’d settle for nothing less than compatibility and balance in my next relationship, and always ask for what I wanted, never putting my needs aside for my partner. Well, that inner work paid off! My next relationship was bliss! My new boyfriend had Mars in Sagittarius, just like me! And he also shared my Venus sign, Taurus, too! He was my Mars, and I was his Venus! And he had Mercury in Gemini, like me, too, which fulfilled my need for the Gemini/Air vibe in my partner. We were a very romantic pair– but alas, you can be mutually happy with someone, and still not be ready for the same things and goals. So, I walked away from him, not wanting to force him into something he wasn’t ready for, which was so hard for me! But two years later, I found myself with– can you guess? A Sun in Gemini, Mars in Sagittarius man! Exactly what I have! And it was like gangbusters. Within a year, married, kids, house. So, I did it: I attracted a man whose masculine planets were an exact match to mine! And I can tell you, nearly 20 years later, he still has the power to make my knees weak. Not that we always get along. We don’t. In fact, I think I was probably more compatible with the Venus in Taurus/Mars in Sag guy [Four years married to my husband, and my grandmother would still ask, “Whatever happened to that nice guy you used to go out with? Oh, you two were so cute together! LOL] See, my husband is mostly air and fire, and I have a lot of earth. So yes, he fits my image of what I like in a man– but I don’t know how well I fit his, though I know I look the part for his tastes, and am his “type,” but I can’t say I handle his female planets well– which are Moon in Sagittarius conj. Mars, and Venus in Aries (his idea of foreplay is war!). He picks a problem where there is none, and as soon as I’m annoyed– he pounces, ready for love! Having Moon & Venus in Taurus, I’m far more interested in a good massage over unnecessary annoyance, but I have to own up to the fact that my Mercury/Mars opposition predisposes me to passionate argument– and since it conj./opposes his Moon, I probably derive more enjoyment out of our power struggles than I’m willing to admit. And, with Venus, my husband and I do share an out of sign conj. [his Venus at Aries at 28 degrees and mine at 4 degrees Taurus]- so perhaps, I may be just the woman to give him the fight he so hungers for LOL [but he always starts it! I finish it!]. Luckily, as a pair of Geminis with Mars in Sagittarius, we move on within reason [until next time], and have a great big meal, a roll in hay, watch a good reality show that we laugh about. It’s never a dull moment around us, folks!

  52. I briefly dated an 3H Aries Venus man – he is a junior high teacher who loved being adored by his students. He definitely was looking solely for another “notch in his belt.” My rebuffs have only intensified his desire for a conquest. I’ve had to block his phone number twice (cell phone number blocks are only valid for 2 months with Verizon). However, I did have a passionate relationship with a man whose 8H Gemini Venus was conjunct my 4H Gemini Mars (Yes, we spent his money redecorating his house!). His Scorpio Mars on his ASC was conjunct my 9H Scorpio Neptune/Jupiter. Eventually, the relationship truly “burned” up. I was left physically and emotionally wiped out.

  53. Yeah try telling that to my Scorpio Moon/Saturn trine Venus….late degrees Pluto square cancer Venus and …8th house ruled by possessive Taurus with NN and Lilith in that house. Obsession is an emotional need. When I do let go of a person which could take years, that person will then not ever exist or cross my mind for all eternity.

  54. SO GOOD! This advice is like BAM.

    I’ve been divorced for just shy of a year now. I beat myself up all of the time. Why couldn’t I have been more like this or that, why didn’t I do this or that. If only we would have known…

    You know what, I’m like 99.9% sure he doesn’t love me. He has a type of love for me because I am the mother of his child, but he doesn’t love, love me. You know what I mean? What’s worse is that I TRIED to be what he wanted… for seven years.

    So, now I can stop rehashing the past and thinking about what I could have done, didn’t do or what I should do and just move on; I’ll learn to be myself. I really want to find someone, and I really want to share life with someone. I hope there is a man out there especially for me, I really do.

  55. ditto Kathy, I have Venus in Capricorn as well. Though I don’t like workaholics, just someone who does his job, loves it and does it with excellence. And Blue Collar guys are attractive to me even more than Corporate or Politician types as it is in the 2nd House which is a house ruled by Taurus. Earthy and a hard worker Or an artist of some kind, musician or other mediums. My husband was a landscaper and an artist : )

    So regarding this video, I agree with the premise and also have had the experience of the “easier said than done”. It took me five years to finally get over him already…lol His Saturn was conj. my Sun (in the 12th) my Venus in his 7th (Saturn ruled) and his Saturn conj. my ASC and my Moon/Pluto conj his Sun! It felt VERY karmic like we had shit to finish though we at first enjoyed each other’s company immensely. Then it started to all unravel very quickly when Uranus went into Aries and I finally broke away. It was tough, but I finally did it and felt liberated. The hurt remained for years but I never went back to banging my head against that wall again.

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