“Programming” is a psychology term that became popular in the 1990’s when Pluto was in Scorpio. It was used to describe the affects of extreme brainwashing suffered by survivors of ritual abuse.
The idea was that people had triggers embedded in their psyches. These triggers were put in place with malevolent intent, so they could be tripped at a later date, causing the person to act in accord with the program.
This describes a fanatical and punishing example of what is a common psychological phenomena. In other words, I think we are all psychologically programmed to an extent. This can be for good or ill.
As an example of common programing, what if someone told you that you were ugly all your life? When someone tells you that you’re pretty, you’re likely to doubt them. You hit this trigger and your programming kicks in.
People talk about religious programming, which is also valid. If you have been strongly taught that X is right and Y is wrong, it’s fair to say, when you come up against these things in your life, you’re going to react to what is deep within you.
What’s we don’t talk about in regards to “programming” is the upside which I think is as vast and endless as the downside. For example, you can be programmed for success as easy as you can be programmed to fail.
What if your parents filled you with encouragement? What if they told you taught you, “If you’re going through hell, keep going.” And due to this, when you hit a rough patch, you persevere and ultimately thrive?
Religious teaching can benefit you as well. For example, if you have been taught that marriage is “Till death do we part”, you may hit a rough patch in your marriage, but the “programming” keeps you there. Twenty or thirty years later, you look back with relief and gratitude for what had been instilled in you, because in the scheme of things, that rough patch was nothing. But there is another, higher level point I want to make.
I am someone who got back together with (and married) my boyfriend from my teenage years. Via this experience, I learned that I have numerous “triggers” that will run a variety of life-affirming “programs”.
If you are in a real love relationship, trigger points are created along the way. If you’re aware of this, it’s possible to tap them during crisis and bring the love that’s between you to the front. I have gone as far as to recommend that people deliberately create this programming in their relationships. Before you flip out – check this:
My husband and I used to sit cross-legged on the bed and eat pizza as teens. We were young and happy and sexy and laughing.
So if we are having an enormous fight today… if we get a pizza and bring it into the bedroom, what do you think is going to happen? We start feeling those old feelings. We really can’t help this. It takes us back in quickly as you can snap your fingers.
When I look at that picture in this post, I imagine the man just told his wife the same crap that made her laugh when she was sixteen. I may be right about that.
Can you identify some of your damaging programming? How about something positive?