Many of you know that satori had a death in her family last week and while we’ve not talked about it extensively, I am pretty sure the conversations we’ve had have been significant and important. Satori and I met over a death (Tale of Two Pisces). She’s had quite a few people die around her since, including a very young women taken by cancer and more than one murder. Point here is I have some idea how she deals with death but this time is different.
I mentioned this to husband, who has seen way more than his share people dead and dying in a wide variety of circumstances. He said that each death was different and you don’t necessarily know how you’re going to react. I am sure this is correct.
Historically, I have not dealt well with death but in the last five years I’ve done better. I’ve just had to come up with a philosophy what would allow me to reasonably cope because I just could not afford to go down the way I did in my 20’s – I have a son for one thing. But I have definitely seen people who are older (40 +) go down and become inconsolable over a death. Matter of fact, I have seen people lose years of functioning over a death, as well as whole families come apart, perhaps permanently.
Based on this, I keep a close eye on people who have a loss in their life because I know a person can be wiped out. Also because of this, I have worked very hard to come up with and put in place, a belief system that will allow me to process loss of life when it occurs.
What are your experiences processing death? Got any tips or words of wisdom?
pictured – The funeral of Shelley’, Louis Edouard Fournier, 1889