I was talking to a gal about a pattern in her relationships. She had good understanding of the dynamic:
“He does this, then I do that and then he does this and then this happens…”
She concluded that nothing could be done as they were both pathological.
“Well yeah, something can be done. If one of you will give up your pathology, the whole thing won’t exist anymore. It will be cured!”
The sorry fact is, a lot of people have no desire whatsoever to “get better”. They want the other person to get better.
“Essentially this is a control issue,” I said. “You want him to be the one who gets over his stuff…”
This is no way to win. Your odds of making someone fix their problem are very low. Your odds of fixing your own problem, if you try, are HIGH.
What do you think?