The Moon in the natal chart signifies our emotional body, the way we relate emotionally. It is personified by its sign, house placement and aspects. These are all reflected in our emotional nature. The Moon is the archetypal mother figure. For most of us our first emotional relationship was with our mother or whoever filled that role for us. The condition of the Moon reflects our emotional experience of the mother and colors how we approach relationship in general. We are deeply affected by how “successful” we felt in that first relationship. Each individual Moon processes input differently as the nature varies from sign to sign. What works for one Moon does not necessarily work so well for another. How we integrate the feelings about our relationship to our primary parent has a great impact on our feeling of competency in relationship in general.
For this reason it can often be very helpful when assessing how we approach relationship to examine our own Moon condition but also the synastry with the mother, particularly how our Moons interact. One reason for this is the fact that we often gauge others’ emotional needs through the lense of our own. Mothers tend to give what they themselves would need, and that is not always in tune with the child’s nature. Examining this Moon relationship can sometimes flush out understanding of our own emotional quirks.
For instance, I have a Capricorn Moon while my mother has a Leo Moon. They are not in aspect nor sympathetic by sign. I have Saturn needs and she has Sun needs. However, my Moon is in the 5th house, the Sun’s house, which creates some common ground. My sister, however, has a Leo Moon and her experience of our mother was much simpler. I am more likely to choose to relate to people with Moon signs that clash with mine than is my sister. I accept more challenge emotionally, possibly because it is more familiar. However, my sister tends to be more emotionally stable and satisfied, given her propensity to choose people with Moons in easier aspect to her own.
I also have two daughters. I look at their Moons in comparison to mine and come up with a different picture. One has an Aquarius Moon and the other a Capricorn Moon. While I have an inherent understanding of the Capricorn Moon needs, the Aquarian Moon needs are much easier to fill in general. She has fewer and less complicated needs. I actually have to put more effort into giving the Cap Moon daughter comfort than I do with the Aquarian one. But I have an easier time of it with the Cap Moon daughter than my mother did with me because of my own Cap Moon experience. I may also have a blind spot about the Aquarius Moon daughter’s needs given her propensity to seek emotional space.
Do you know your mother’s Moon sign? How does it relate to your Moon sign? Can you see how that was expressed in your early relationship? And now?