I was talking to my 12-year-old son about some nifty psychological-flavored things I know. He’s always been advanced in this area. With Saturn in Scorpio transiting his Sun and Saturn in the 8th house, I see him growing on this front.
Hearing our conversation, my husband was a little surprised. I guess he thought that what I was doing was a bit unconventional where he’s a traditionalist. He has a way that he trains men. His way is effective but this particular young man has my DNA.
Because of that, I know he wants any key he can get. It’s a Panizzon thing. We want to win the card game! And if his mom is going to pass him an ace, he’s going to nab that sucker for sure. We’ve been having a series of conversations on these kinds of topics.
Yesterday I was telling him about how parents often do have favorites. “They say they don’t, but they just can’t help it. Sometimes their preference is slight, but sometimes it’s profound. One parent can prefer one kid and the other parent may prefer a different one. It’s gets complicated,” I said. He listened.
“You’re the only one here, but you probably see this when you visit, Quirky. He’s one of five kids and I bet his parents favor one or more over the others.”
He immediately said that his friend was his mother’s favorite, along with his little brother.
“Yes, it’s obvious,” I said. “She loves the hell out him and I am not surprised she favors his brother as well. I’m sure she loves all her kids, but she’s harder on the girls.”
He said she was.
“Well, their father might make up for that. And either way, it’s common. Mothers often are hard on their daughters. They don’t want them to make the same mistakes they did, or whatever. And the girls may become extraordinary people because of this. It really is complicated, but life is more interesting and it;s easier to understand if you take things like this into consideration…”
Are you the favorite child of one of your parents? The least favorite? How has this affected you?