I was talking to astrologer and pal, cf perez. The concept of a “resilient child” came up. This is a new term used describe children with horrible childhoods who come out okay.
I’m pretty sure I am a quintessential resilient child so I didn’t bother to read bout this beyond the basic characteristics of these children outlined in the article “The Resilient Child” by Tammy Ruggles, BSW, MA.
1. The presence and influence of at least one supportive person in his or her life.
2. Hope and optimism in the face of adversity..
3. A personality that is pleasant, active, social, nurturing, and competitive.
4. Possession of problem-solving skills and an eagerness to learn and succeed.
5. See themselves as victors instead of victims, and strive to improve. .
6. Has a friend, hobby, or interest that he or she turns to in troubled times, like caring for a pet, reading, playing the piano, stamp collecting, etc.
So I was talking about resilient children and I don’t think cf had heard the term.
“…The kids that come out okay in spite of whatever crap happens,” I said.
“You mean the ones that will fight back.”
“What?” I asked.
“Fight back,” she said.
I thought for a nano-second. Could it be that simple? “So you think it’s Mars?” I asked. “You think if someone is willing to fight..?”
“Well, yes! Mars is a warrior…”
I ran through my life experiences in about 30 seconds. The shoe fit. I got to thinking about the people who write me…
So often it comes down to this: Are you going to fight, or not? Are you going to fight for your life or are you going curl up in a ball, blame others, etc?
If you won’t fight, you’re going to be screwed. Everybody has to be the hero of their life.
Are you resilient?