I met this Capricorn man 2 years ago. We’re both married. We talk a lot about almost everything. I find myself very attracted to his mind and outlook on life. My feelings for him are so deep it scares me.
I have not really told him how I felt because he has not expressed any feelings “like that” towards me. But he is a Capricorn… feelings are held in submission. I have flirted with him before and he uses terms of escape which are actually funny and we both laugh. We hug upon greeting and departure and lately the hugs have been more close.
I have asked him if my flirting or hugs bothered him and he said no. I just don’t know how to read this guy. Does he have those same deep feelings for me as I have for him? How would I know and how should this be viewed?
It seems to me you would like to have an affair and you are on the verge of exactly that. As for how that should be viewed, I am not sure what you mean and I am not sure the question can be answered anyway because ten people would have ten different opinions. But I can take some guesses here.
If you are wondering if you can take up with this guy and live happily ever after, I would say no. Though I am sure he likes you and he would probably like to have sex with you, it sounds as if it is far more casual and carnal from his perspective and I don’t like his MO.
You are reading all kinds of things into what is happening and he’s allowing you do to this. He doesn’t tell you that he loves you and wants you madly so you tell yourself he’s a Capricorn and that explains that.
But what it explains to me is this guy is not taking responsibility for what he is up to. He letting you cross all the lines and then what’s he going to claim? She made me do it? I’d be very careful because grownups don’t act like this. And since you are nearly 50, he must be of similar age and consequently this is baffling to me.
But to answer your specific question: does he have deep feelings for you? I would say no. Carnal feelings, yes. I do think you are hunting and being hunted but once slayed, will there be anything there? Very doubtful. I’m sorry but this is just not how real relationships are formed and with Saturn (reality) about to transit your Venus in Virgo… well I guess you are going to learn this.
I am sorry and good luck.