I am currently in the depths of hell! I am married to a Gemini and the marriage has been over for four years now. I have let go of all of that and we are only in it for our daughter now. But I am so lonely, I could die! I have been spending my time and energy in fantasy land (started book, finished book… trying to sell book) but I am ready to move on to something other than fantasy.
I have finally met a man that makes me ready to talk to a lawyer about the soon to be ex. The problem is: he is married too. The new guy is Capricorn and I have fallen hard. He knows all about my “situation” and even told me he is in the same situation with his wife, but I’m not sure how to react to his admission. Part of me wants to take the lead and make a move, but another part of me says to step back and let him do the work. I’m not even sure if he wants me “like that” because one minute he seems very interested and the next he seems cold.
I know Cap guys are all about family and doing the right thing and I feel so guilty for wanting him but I feel such a connection to him. Or am I just lonely? Any help?
Depths Of Hell
You’re definitely lonely. You also sound bored, sad, tired and hungry. I am just not sure this means that you should make this other woman’s husband a meal. Or even that you can. And I am almost certain if you do… well the reality is not going to live up to your fantasy.
Because astrologically, you are having a Neptune (fantasy) to Venus (the love object). This is a pining transit, so falling for someone who is out of reach (or removed) is virtually inevitable. But if you follow through on this, the odds of your being able to manifest the fantasy in reality are virtually nil. Mark my words. You think the guy is hot, only to find out he’s impotent. This is the kind of thing that happens. Uh oh.
Now I am sorry, because I know this is not what you want to hear. However, since I said it, how about an alternative path? How about thinking something like this:
“You know, I’ve been rotting on the vine for a very long time. I am beginning to smell men though, and I like it. Could it be I’m waking up?”
The answer is yes.
And from there, you can take whatever steps you need to end your marriage and make yourself available… so you can meet a man who is available, and have the next four year be much better than the last four. But run off and join the circus?