I wrote this when Saturn was transiting Libra, circa 2011. I thought it might be off-putting to some, but others desperately wanted these things defined because they desperately wanted to overcome their problems in relationships. Saturn in Capricorn is squaring Libra. Time for a reboot!
You want to invest in yourself. To focus on the partner, trying to get them to do this or that or the other thing in their life is a waste of your time. You’re much better off working to make yourself a great person and a great partner. If you opt to do this and you’re successful, you’ll have no problem finding someone who wants to be with you.
Just think about spending two or three or more years trying to get X person to do Y thing. What might you have accomplished if you’d invested in yourself?
What if you went to college and took some classes during that time?
What if you started a business or an exercise program or gone to the library, or fixed your wardrobe, your house, your relationship with your family, or even your relationship with yourself?
There’s another way people focus on other people’s lives – they blame them for things. The fact is, your life and it’s quality is your responsibility. It’s not your partner’s, your neighbor’s or your President’s responsibility to provide you a life you enjoy. It is up to you to define (Saturn) your pleasure (Libra / Venus) and then to work to get it. If you take this on, you’ll be amazed at the results.
Tell us of your success after taking responsibility for your life and happiness.