There’s a thread in the forum: “Can a relationship really be long term without Saturn aspects in synastry?” It’s a great question!
There are all different types of relationship. I wanted to say, people relate in different ways for different reasons. I wanted a puffy answer like that, but I thought about it overnight. I don’t see a way to maintain a relationship over time without a Saturn component.
This is not necessarily because you are “stuck” or “bound” or have “karma”, either light or heavy. It’s because Saturn rules commitment.
If you’ve never been in long term relationship, you may not realize that no matter how much you love someone, the time will come when they annoy you. Or they let you down in some way. It’s impossible to live your life, year after year and always be at your best.
If your friend or your partner is not committed to you; if they lack this ability, they’re going walk, most likely when you need them the most.
This Saturn (glue) may show in the synastry but before you even get that far, consider the individual. Recently, I had a father ask me if his daughter was going to stay in a relationship with a bad man.
“No. She’ll leave.”
“How do you know?” he asked
“She leaves every relationship. It’s all she knows how to do at this point. She’ll leave…”
I could imagine him, on his end of the phone, nodding in the affirmative.
You can’t have a long term relationship if you (or your partner) can’t commit. And Saturn is not some kind of oppressive force that harms you. There are certain privileges, reserved for grownups. Long term relationships are one of them.
Are you able to commit over time?