There’s a thread in the forum: “Can a relationship really be long term without Saturn aspects in synastry?” This is a great question!
I wanted to say that there are all different types of relationship.
I wanted to say that people relate in different ways for different reasons.
I wanted some kind of puffy answer like that, but I thought about it overnight. In my mind there is no way to maintain a relationship over time, without a Saturn component.
This is not necessarily because you are “stuck” or “bound” or have “karma”, either light or heavy. It’s because Saturn rules commitment.
If you’ve never been in long term relationship, you may not realize that no matter how much you love someone (friend or partner), the time is going to come when they annoy you. Or they let you down in some way. It’s just possible to live your life, year after year, and always be at your best.
If your friend or your partner is not committed to you; if they lack this ability, they’re going walk, most likely, when you need them the most.
This Saturn (glue) may show in the synastry but before you even get that far, consider the individual. Recently, I had a father ask me if his daughter was going to stay in a relationship with a bad man.
“No. She’ll leave.”
“How do you know?” he asked
“She leaves every relationship. It’s all she knows how to do at this point. She’ll leave…”
I could imagine him, on his end of the phone, nodding in the affirmative.
You can’t have a long term relationship if you (or your partner) can’t commit. And Saturn is not some kind of dirty dog or oppressive force that harms you.
There are certain privileges, reserved for grownups. Long term relationships are one of them.
Are you able to commit over time?