Is Mars In The 7th House Bad For Marriage?

Mars Greek SoldiersI had someone remark about my high tolerance for strife in relationship.  My husband had a similar high tolerance.

Vedic astrologers seem to be on to this. Mars in the 7th house in the Vedic system is considered bad for marriage but there is remedy. The remedy is to marry someone with the same affliction!

It sounds like hocus-pocus until you see it work. If you like to battle with others, what makes more sense then finding someone who likes same?

We shy away from characterizing anything as an “affliction” in modern western astrology but according to a poll, only twelve percent of people acknowledge they like to spar in their relationships. What’s a person like me to do?

When seen in this light, it is an “affliction” to run around fighting all over the place… challenging the partner, when so many find it distasteful.

It’s something to note if you happen to be a warrior. People are jarred! So if you happen to like a good fight now and then you may as well avoid those who don’t for the good of all parties. It turns out this happens to be, roughly, eighty-eight percent of the population!

Are you are in the twelve percent group? How do you feel this?



Is Mars In The 7th House Bad For Marriage? — 30 Comments

  1. I have mars in the first so I LOVE a good fight and some drama now and then but usually only with certain lovers. Good verbal sparring is an art and one I am very adept at. It clears the air and makes me feel refreshed. How can you go through life and never ratchet it up a notch now and then? It has to be with certain people that you have that flow with though.

  2. I have Mars in the 7th… does make for a lot of conflict in the relationship. My boyfriend constantly questions why I need to break the peace. I seem to stir things up, sometimes I act/talk before thinking how it will affect others. I have Mars tied up with my moon, mercury, uranus, and (luckily) jupiter. I am with a man who won’t tolerate any abuse, and who has clear boundaries, so anytime I step over the line he calls me out on my obnoxious behavior. This results in a fair amount of yelling.
    He can tolerate my mars in the 7th, probably because he has Aries rising himself.

  3. I don’t think it’s considered ‘feminine’ for women to openly acknowledge that they like a good fight every now and again. However, in these stress ridden times and illness becoming a 90% reflection of this stress I wonder if this innate combative desire has gone underground or under-skin? I openly admit that with Mars/Mercury conjunction I have a temper and with my husband having the same aspect it’s a given that we need and respect this energy in one another. Whether or not we have ‘civilized’ the beast is another matter! With the conjunction being in Pisces and Lira it’s more iron hand in velvet glove.

  4. I once was involved in a relationship in which my girlfriend loved to fight. Initially, I was somewhat disturbed over this fact. Until one day I realised that our “fighting” was a precursor to some fine sex. From that day forward, I developed a fond appreciation for her combative foreplay.

  5. It’s interesting what Deglet said, because I have Mars in 7th, and my husband also has Aries Rising. We both do not let the other one get away with any bullshit. The both of us stand up for ourselves. It’s just now that we are older, and have been together for so long, we need more so to be peaceful with each other.

  6. Well I said that conflict doesn’t bother me. I didn’t actually read that as “likes to fight” – I don’t, but it doesn’t bother me much.

    That being said, I think if there’s tension it needs to be released or resolved somehow, and if a good fight will do it, then let’s go.

    I figure, like with so many other things about me that are just not the normal, that knowing this helps me avoid all the people who aren’t cool with it and thereby saves me a lot of time in relationships with the wrong people.

  7. Shannon – I think that’s a really good point. Self-awareness probably saves a lot of painful, non-constructive arguments or fighting for the sake of it rather than it being a healthy outlet.

  8. My Descendant is in Aries = Mars in the 7th…so I married a man with his Moon in Aries in the 5th….. which amounts to about the same.

    We yell at each other at least once a day and have never been offended once by these outbursts.

    Not once!

    It did not work with anyone else.

  9. I have Mars in the 7th. I don’t mind conflict but I hate it when people take it personally! It’s just a healthy fight FGS!

  10. I’m with Sonia, I don’t mind conflict at all but hate it when people take it personally. (I have Mars in Pisces which I guess isn’t suppposed to be assertive in that way but being conjunct Mercury is what I guess makes me argumentative.)

    I LOVE a good debate, in fact, I expect some good debates in my relationships. I don’t want to be with someone who I can’t talk about ideas with, and who won’t try and assert theirs.

    And of course there are going to be times when people don’t agree and a fight ensues, it’s a normal part of life! In my eyes no fighting means that someone is repressing their feelings. Fighting though, with me, should be kept at an intellectual level. Once feelings are thrown in and sulkiness, resentment, etc ensue, then it’s over!!

  11. it really, really surprises me that the percentage is so low of people who enjoy a good fight, but I guess that it only surprises me because it’s never been any other way for me.

  12. only if it’s not mean spirited… there’s certain ruels of debate and respect that need to be heeded… but then they’re fun.

    i think a lot of people can’t become combative without playing dirty… or have an idea it’s even possible.

  13. I have moon-mars-venus conj. in Pisces and mercury square saturn-pluto and I love to discuss… or most of friends would say argue!! I personally don’t take it too personal (even when I sound intense!) but they feel intimidated so I try to be more peaceful and deliver my opinions more smoothly. I have another friend (Scorpio) who I argue with (met him 2 years go!) and he taught me that it’s ok to let out steam sometimes and not take it too personal! He has venus-pluto conj. in Libra and he LOVES drama and passion and I LOVE that in him!! Now I just need to find a guy that I can date that will appreciate the fire and that can at least handle it…. 😉

  14. Here’s a great example of somebody with Mars in the sixth house addressing this issue:

    “Adults have fights and go through stuff,” Tomlin said Tuesday. “I know some people are more dignified in the world, that if you transgress against that kind of professionalism, that it’s some kind of great sin, but I don’t see it that way.”

    And the video of this in action (disclaimer – heavy language):

  15. I have an aquarian mars in the 7th and I definitely like a bit of sparring within my closer relationships. I don’t really like anything mean spirited, but a little blood pumping is good.

    Luckily the guy I live with has mars in 4th.

  16. Aries Mars on the 7th cusp here. My last X’s Pisces Mars really irritated me that way: we couldn’t have it out and in the open, plus I myself was not quite owning up to my own Mars — Pluto now squaring my Mars is changing that for sure. The partners I enjoyed the most had Aries Moon and or Mars but it never worked out in the long term because my chart is heavily in fixed signs… So lots of time required to get ready for anything does not fly well with them Rams! But I sure do love a good bit of clean competitive sparring! I’ve been reproached for arguing for the sake of it… which I attribute to Libra rising/Aries descending: that’s being the devil’s advocate fighting for balance, which is perceive as healthy.

  17. Or you just pick someone with a strong Mars/Aries influence. My bf has Mars in the 7th, and I have the Sun, Mercury and Venus in Aries- with Venus in Aries in the 7th.

  18. yes, elementary. 😀 it’s true, whatever affliction you have, even though you dont like this in yourself, you tend to tolerate it more and get on with others who are the same as you. it’s such a weird pheonemon… but so true. If you like to nitpick, and you hate that about yourself, you tend (you = general) to find someone who is similar. birds of a feather.

  19. I can’t relate to this discussion. My 4H Gemini Mars trines my 8H Libra Sun and Mercury. I’d attempt to find an equitable solution to a problem; “keep the family peace.” If senseless verbal confrontations occurred on a regular basis, I’d bolt – 7H Leo Uranus conjunct asteroid “Jayne.”

  20. My husband and I both have Mars in the 7th. I’ve recently rekindled my love of astrology and was concerned when I noticed this. This article really helped relieve some of my stress though so thank you! The only problem is, I’m aware of my joy of fighting but he pretends to hate it even though I know that he instigates and sometimes enjoys it?

  21. I’m like Jayne. I can’t relate either. But i am reading these comments because i have a family member who is combative and im trying to understand so i sam not so gutted when she attacks me. I have pisces moon and ascendant and my mars is squared by saturn.

  22. Capricorn mars in 7th. 2 marriages, a couple abusive relationships and currently in couples counseling with angry BF. Relationships with men have been fraught with fighting. Do I enjoy it? No, it triggers my PTSD. I’m told I’m seeking mastery over the abuse I endured as a child. It’s called trauma reenactment in pshyc terms. The gift at this stage is I am learning not to engage and hold my space when baited. Guess in some ways I am gaining mastery over how I respond in conflict. After all I am responsible for me. What others do says more about them.

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