The South Node in Aries is confident, quick, feisty, assertive, proud, and has a strong sense of self. These adjectives are things to be happy about. It sounds like a loud party in an apartment building. Aries is pure Yang energy in astrology. It is straightforward, expressive, ego-based, exciting, fiery, action-packed, and forward moving, masculine, energy.
Yang energy, taken to an extreme, is impulsive, blunt, crude, pompous, unwise, loud, and is destructive. Aries is the ultimate Yang sign. It has little patience, and it can be like a bull in a China shop. But this tactic worked for South Node in Aries. At their worst, they bulldozed their way through people, things, and life, in general. At their best, they were respected for their willingness to go forward with projects, and their strong sense of self.
This sense of self might have had great tendencies towards success and even a lot of relationships. But in this lifetime, you South Node in Aries will find that your negative manifestations of your Aries side might make you realize that you can’t win every fight. Or, you will find that being too aggressive will actually limit your success. I mean, who wants to take orders from someone who barks in their face?
Manners and polite words
There’s a tendency for you South Node in Aries people to be too sharp and straight forward, sometimes. You see this as ‘not wasting time’, but you must realize that not everyone speaks the same way. Some people are softer spoken, some love to just be quiet altogether, and some may prefer more subtle ways of communicating.
You may find that your straightforwardness may turn off some folk. Add in your intense Martian energy, and some folks may just run for the hills. That doesn’t mean any way of speaking is inferior, it just means that you may need to navigate your way with people who aren’t the same as you.
You will learn that having some softness will help you achieve your goals more than just ramming your agenda down someone’s throat. That may have helped you slay dragons, fight off tough ninjas, or even save people in war, but there are times where that type of energy is a little off putting. Not only that, that energy may aggravate someone who you’re trying to win over.
In this lifetime, you are learning to compromise and to move forward. Being too aggressive will not work this time though. You might run into people who differ from your way of expressing yourself. It may be cultural, or it just may be personal preferences. You may want to polish your sharp energy if you want to move forward, at times. You are learning social diplomacy and the art of compromising. You are not just learning intonation and speaking.
North Node in Librans are learning that they may catch more flies with honey than by throwing metaphorical knives at people when they don’t get their way right away. You can really agitate people with your fiery energy and your pushy intensity. South Node in Aries folks can really lead people to not listen, or follow their direction (s), by being this way.
What you Aries types don’t know is that the power of Libra’s charm has lead them far, and has kept them from trouble a lot of the time. Do not see Libra’s sweetness as weakness, but a smart social move. The wisdom of Libra could lead them to stop someone from killing someone else. It could help foreign affairs. It could soothe a person filled with rage planning a shooting. There are myriads of ways Libra is wise. But you South Node in Aries must get rid of the philosophy that, ‘Sweetness and niceness are weaknesses.’ This might lead you down roads you don’t want to go in this lifetime. The universe is motivating you to tap into that North Node in Libra of yours.
Partnerships and Selflessness
Earlier in your life, or in past lives, you may have preferred to be independent, and alone. But life may push you into working in a partnership. You may become a cop, and work with a partner instead of alone. You may start a business……..,but with another person helping you. For all we know, you may start a successful business with your husband, or wife! You two might become a famous couple, or not. But a lot of South Node in Aries learn a lot about life, and themselves, from their relationships, and partnerships, in this lifetime.
You may suddenly have an urge to have a boyfriend, or girlfriend, in this lifetime. Perhaps earlier in your life you didn’t care either way about having a lover, or not. And then you suddenly want to share yourself with another person. This is a natural desire for a lot of human beings; to share their soul, desires, dreams, and life, with another person. North Node in Libras may also be destined to partner with someone to help the other person through something. One of my aunts, who is now over eighty years old, married my mentally ill uncle. She helped him through many decades of suffering. She had North Node in Libra.
In relationships, North Node in Libras must learn to compromise, or risk losing their partner. They will learn that relationships of all kinds: Boyfriends, girlfriends, friends, businesses, acquaintances, and political. All have an element of compromise in them. There is a hard lesson that not everything in life is about the self, or ego. South Node in Aries may first cling onto their stubborn old ways of needing everything to be their way. This might lead them down a path of ruin, and they have a chance to realize that there is a limit to getting what they want. They must learn not to control their partner, or partners, and figure out a way to please both people in the relationship. You both may not get exactly what you want, and that is an epiphany in itself.
The lesson of the North Node in Libra is that we can’t always please ourselves. Life is unpredictable, and exists outside of the self. Life exists within the self, also, but North Node in Libras are learning that life is about more than their egos. They must learn to share, give, and interact, with others. Being used to being selfish doesn’t automatically mean that someone is a bad person, but it can be a threshold towards being one.
Sharing can be hard for these strong headed people. They have spent lifetimes learning to be independent, and learned to stick up for themselves. Perhaps they were born an only child in this life. This may likely make them lean towards looking out for themselves. Or, you South Node in Aries are used to being number one, the best at your profession. Then in comes someone more talented than you. This can cause you to relapse back to your familiar South Node in Aries. This is a challenge the universe may put up for you guys, and girls. Learning that you can’t always be first place, or the best, is a hard lesson for most people.
Overall, South Node in Aries are strong folks who are learning to share, learning through their relationships, and working through on how to interact with people.
Do you have North Node in Libra, or the seventh house? Are these challenges familiar to you? If not, what challenges, or lessons, are missing? Do you think you are on your way to mastering your North Node in Libra, and/or the seventh house?
Read the intro to this series – Astrology and the North Node: Destiny, potential, and lessons