It’s been about nine months since I broke up with this guy I was with. I have the strangest of feelings since then…I don’t feel anything. I see other men…not a feeling. I see HIM, again nothing.zip. Is it normal for people to go through such a phase? Up till now, I always had something going, you know, I was always in love! Its just gone now. How do I get out of this phase?
Hi, Numb. While I don’t think this is easy in anyway, I don’t think you need to be alarmed. You’re in your early twenties, finding out that people (which includes you), change and grow and mature.
You want to go back and feel the way you have in the past, but the love you felt was not real…at least it was not going to stay “real”. If it was, you’d not be where you are today. I don’t mean this to be a slap in the face. I think you’re lucky to be going through this at your age. It’s a reality check.
The way you’ve been living; the men you’ve been dating are not right for you. So why would you feel anything when you see them? You are changing and it’s positive.
Compare this to saying in 7th grade forever. Some people manage to do that, for the most part. With your moon in Capricorn, I’m sure you don’t want to be one of them!
It’s the Pluto transit to your moon that is creating this void. It’s trying to take you deeper to make you aware of your innermost self. Can you see how the “always-in-love-flitting” persona does not really address your core needs?
In a sense you are outgrowing bubble gum pop music. And while it may not feel good today, you’re going to be far better off in the future, having shed your veneer.
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