If a person lacks one element in their chart-for example, I have no fire-then is it difficult for them to be friends with people with an emphasis in that element? I’ve noticed that my acquaintances belong to all sorts of signs, but in the core group of friends, there isn’t a single Leo/Sadge/Aries. Is there any way we could make up for what we lack in our chart?
Hi, Flame. Three things.
First, you don’t mention how old you are, but when people are young, it’s common they run with people who similar to them. As they get older they will expand their circle. This is natural.
To understand, just consider a baby being born into a family (people similar to him or her). Eventually, that child leaves the house…
Secondly, are you sure there is no fire in your circle of friends? Are you only considering sun signs? You can’t look at a Virgo Sun with four planets in Leo and say that person has no fire. You can’t look at someone with Mars conjunct their ascendant, aspecting their Sun and Moon and say they’re passive.
Last, as far as making up what you lack in your chart, I’d say you have a choice. I lack planets in Fixed signs. I have spent my life with Taurus, Leo, Scorpio and Aquarius. Their immovability irritates me at times, but clearly I need the grounding. Without the Fixed energy, I’d be like a whirligig, constantly spinning into oblivion, whichever way wind blows.
However, I can choose to avoid people with the energy I lack and there is impetus to do exactly that. It would be more comfortable!
For example, I’ve lived with Taurus / Scorpio for the last twenty years. The WAITING I do is insane. If I say, “Hurry up”, I get cut!
I choose to live this way because it’s good for me. The Fixed energy helps me to better serve and achieve, which is important to me.
To answer your specific question, yes you can make up for what you lack. You can work to develop qualities that you see in others. This is easier to do if you’re immersed with the “others” who have the qualities you lack.
Example – I moved to the South a year ago. My manners have improved!
Do you lack a certain element in your chart? Do you try to compensate for it?
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