You wake up sick of your friend or your lover or whoever. Is it okay to leave? Let’s assume you have some time and energy invested in this person.
Easy answer! Of course it’s okay to leave. You can do anything you want, any time you want for any reason. This is true! This is how I handled relationship when I was young and let me tell you, I had a very long puppyhood!
I’m also a hothead, a commitment-phobic and a person with a powerful “leaving gene” in general. I never thought twice about leaving someone, for many years. I come first, you know? Me! Me! Me! I’m not happy. I’m bored. I’m mad or any other emotion under the sun; so I’m leaving! I’m a big baby!
This works for awhile but it doesn’t take long to rack up a trail of bodies behind you. There’s a point where your and your behavior become suspicious to everyone around you, though chances are, no one will say anything to you directly.
If you’re honest, you might realize if they were to say something, you’d react badly. People are gun-shy in this day and age. You offend someone, anyone, there’s no telling the out-of-bounds repercussions coming your way. You dumped everyone else; you’re going to dump them too. Maybe they’re not up for their own execution!
Also, people tend to forget, their friends and family are overwhelmingly going to accept their version of events; never considering there’s another side to the story. Even if they do think of the other person, will they say anything? Some may but most won’t.
I get a lot of calls on this topic and this is why! It’s hard to find someone who will take an objective look at your situation and in particular, see it through the other person’s eyes. I know I have Libra, but I still feel ignoring the other person’s perspective is beyond merely foolish. It almost guarantees, you will leave the relationship, to land in one just like it and generally worse.
Why? Because you didn’t learn anything! You are looking at them; dealing with them, but they are having to deal with you. It’s good to consider what that might be like.
People to tend to inflate their efforts and good deeds in their relationship, while minimizing the other person’s contributions. Setting up the equation like this, insures the answer you come up with will be flawed, if not entirely upside-down. But do you know it? Probably not because you have your cheerleader section who swears you can do no wrong. Wonder what their motive is?
What do you think? What do you have to do or know or have in place, if anything, before you can leave a relationship feeling you’re made a good and healthy decision that ending a relationship is in fact, in your best interests over the long term?