My relationship with my Piscean man started off with friendship. I was sexually assaulted a year into our friendship by someone else. He remained by my side, and nursed me back from the brink of emotional collapse.
Unbeknownst to me, it somehow involved into something more. We become involved in an intimate relationship, that has now produced a pregnancy. He never wanted to have children with anyone. As a result, our friendship/relationship has been severed.
I don’t understand how he could be there through such a tragedy, but cannot be there for this child. He told me that he does not want to talk, or see me anymore. It is now been a month, and I have not heard anything from him.
I don’t understand that either. And he may not understand it himself. And I am very sorry you have been abandoned like this. It’s got to be incredibly painful… and embarrassing. Because you are a Capricorn, concerned with public image and I know how this is.
For some reason when a woman is left pregnant, she is blamed. There must be something wrong with her, people think. Otherwise that man would never have left. And this is bullshit, of course. Men leave because they can. The baby is in your stomach, not theirs! So if they want to leave, they can. But I want you to know there are people who see through this, and now what?
Well there is nothing you can do about his lack of desire to be emotionally involved. So at this point you would do best to accept that, and try to detach and make this a practical matter. Because it does not matter if he wanted to have a child or not. The fact his, he has a child and the child is inside your body. And whether he likes it or not, he is as responsible for that baby as you are. And though he may be turning his back and denying his responsibility, this won’t do him much good if you decide to sue him for child support.
And this is the question you need to ask yourself. Do you want to chase this guy for child support? And no one can answer this but you.
See, I don’t know your situation. If your resources are limited, then there is no question what you will need to do. Get on the phone with social services and have them assist you. Do it now, so you have things in place for when the baby comes.
On the other hand, if you are flush, then you have choices. And I want to mention this. Because some would say that you have to go after the father on principle. They argue that your baby is entitled to support – but the fact is, if you can support your child yourself, there is another option and it’s called “Cut your losses”. What your baby needs most is a happy mother who takes care of herself, so you want to make decisions that support that. And leave this guy to do whatever he’s going to do about the fact he has a baby in this world. And I am not sure just how pregnant you are, but this is my advice:
Take care of your body and your baby. Go easy on yourself. You can’t do anything about anything (as far as child support is concerned) until your baby is born. And if you are going to be a single parent with a newborn, believe me you are going to need all the rest you can get now.
Outside of that, try to remember it is you in the catbird seat. It is you who can go after him for support (or not) and it is you with the precious thing in your body.
It is also you who is mature enough to take responsibility for your child, so keep your chin up and start making plans to be an excellent parent to your child – which is Capricorn’s forte. And for the record, I am fully confident you will succeed at this, regardless of what this guy does or does not do.
Congratulations and much love and good luck.