The movie, The Missing Person was greatly interesting to me. The main character was a loner-type man. He was a heavy drinker; bumbling. Hard to say whether he was clever, lucky, both or neither. Venus in Scorpio trine Neptune. Film noir.
At one point in the story he tries to get a woman to talk to him. He was not necessarily desperate. He seemed to want a point of human contact in his drunkenness but she rebuked him and he hung up the phone and muttered to himself, “Your loss.”
I couldn’t tell what that was. A defense? A delusion? But I thought at the time, it’s not a phrase you hear a lot anymore. People seem to have to chase others down, try to get them to do things. Quiet confidence and acceptance of rejection is quite rare.
What got me about this about this movie is at the end, and I mean, the end-end, the very last line, I realized that it quite probably was *her loss* and what a shock that was.
Everyone has “real love” on their mind. They want quality in their relationships. If this describes how you feel, the first and most important thing you can do is become a person who offers quality in relationship.
If you are this or if you become this, then the next time you’re rejected you can also mutter, “Their loss”, and have it be real.
Are you as good a partner as the partner you want for yourself?