Is your friend or partner constantly criticizing or complaining about you? Chances are they don’t even like you.
Hear this: people date and marry people they don’t like all the time. Take two minutes to watch this video and spare yourself tons of pain and horror!
Also, you may be the one full of hate. Check yourself!
Have you ever tried to have a relationship with someone who has contempt for you?
It goes for family members too. One of my blood brothers, who is a Sun in Taurus, doesn’t like that I’m too changeable (how Taurus is that?) and ignores me. He may feel he has to care for me as a family member, but he doesn’t like me as a person at all!
Peter Kramer discusses this in his book, “Should You Leave?”. Contempt for people we love is better understood as a projection of contempt for oneself. We hate ourselves but we are denial about that; we aren’t yet ready to own our shortcomings so we “see” them in our partner where we can then despise them. It’s shadow material.
People who don’t like me try to be my friend all the time. It’s very strange.
So I recognize it and I keep them at a distance. This doesnt mean they stop persisting though.
It’s just funny to me because when I decide I don’t like someone I go out of my way to avoid them!
Welcome, Ame. 🙂
Sadly, I have experienced this twice. I was in a 18-year marriage to a man who literally hated my guts but made me think he loved me. He had Sun, Moon, Mercury, Neptune, North Node in Scorpio. He hated me because he was jealous of my self-confidence (Sun in the 1st house, Venus in Leo) but it took me years to see what he was doing to sabotage me. I was literally sleeping with the enemy. I had to move 2200 miles away to get free of him.
the charisma thing happens with women too. If you, as a woman, are more charismatic, than the man you are with they are often jealous of the attention. But jealous because they want the attention on them, not you!