On my last post, Is the House or Sign Most Important When Interpreting Black Moon Lilith?, Lalilu wrote (lightly edited for clarity):
Does BML energetics and her path through our lives have some kind of completion? When you learn your lessons it becomes a gift, her knowledge can become your power? I am also curious about females which consciously made their BML a “house of power” in a humble, peaceful, benevolent way? Or is it not really possible with BML? Is BML only learning through pain?
These are great questions! I would say that, like any other energy in our chart, we do get better at working with it over time. But also, like any other energy, getting better requires intention and hard work.
Thoughtfully working through and aligning yourself with your Black Moon Lilith is an incredible step toward owning your power. And owning that power can be a gift not only to you, but to the people around you as well. Lilith teaches us to both fight for ourselves and to be a champion of the weak.
But that lesson does come with a price. At some point in the process, working with Lilith is going to hurt.
Lilith’s story is defined in relation to power. Her story starts when she is oppressed and devalued by the ultimate authority. And our Black Moon Lilith is where we engage with those same issues. I think it was another astrologer, Liz Greene, who one said that people who are destined to engage positively with power must first at some point in their lives be victims of it. That is the defining Lilith principle.
It is the pain that forces us to take a second look at statements like “this is just the way things are,” or “this is how it’s always been done,” and start wondering why. It’s the pain that pushes us outside the comfort of our gilded bubble to face the harsh realities of being a very small fish in a very big pond. It’s the pain that helps us understand our inherent value without all the trappings of conventional success. It’s the pain that drives us to carve out our own space in the world. Finally, it’s the pain that gives us the empathy and strength to reach down and lift other people up.
But the pain isn’t the point. Pain is only the vehicle. Empowerment is the important part, and Lilith’s empowerment can absolutely be benevolent and peaceful.
For example, I have a very prominent Lilith, which I’m sure is no surprise given that I have devoted so much of my life to her study. I have been hyperaware of power dynamics for as long as I can remember, and my life has been defined by that awareness. The process of working through Lilith issues has been intensely difficult. But I have been able to transmute that pain into a wonderful calling in which I help other people heal their pain and own their power. I was able to find my little niche and now I devote myself to reaching down to help other people climb. It is work that brings me a great sense of peace and purpose.
That is what Black Moon Lilith drives us toward. From her point of view, we are all put on this earth as enlightened sovereigns. We have everything we need already inside us, and it’s our job to reclaim it from those who would like us to forget our own power. And when we do, it’s our duty to help others find their light.
So yes, Black Moon Lilith can be a peaceful, benevolent influence. That is her ultimate goal. But as long as there are oppressive powers in the world, Lilith will be there to fight them.
Have you experienced the softer side of Black Moon Lilith? Tell us about it!