I feel a good number of people leave their marriage because they’re unhappy with themselves and they project the cause of their unhappiness onto their partner. They don’t realize that you can run but you can’t hide. Their dissatisfaction will follow them.
Many have an irrational idea that a person can be happy every day and avoid uncomfortable feelings, restrictions and disappointment in life. They rage at the suggestion they might have this wrong, often claiming simultaneously that they are not an angry person.
I think this mindset originates from back when it was said: “You can have it all!”
“All” in my book includes the shadow but people who buy into this theory think there is no shadow!
This is like buying a potion that promises you will never age or get sick or not be the hottest thing going on the planet. It’s not only silly, there is no humility in it at all. If there is one thing I’m sure of; life will humble everyone eventually.
Have you ever seen an unhappy or agitated person blame their partner unfairly? Have you been this person?