You’re in a relationship and you no longer want to be. Someone else has caught your eye. You’re dating or you’re married. You want out but you don’t want to face your partner honestly and own your feelings. So what do you do?
Sometimes people in this circumstance start to degrade their partner. They find fault with them and begin to shut them out. They offer vague complaints that are impossible for their partner to address. In some cases they gaslight (tag – gaslighting) the person by pulling away and insisting they’re not pulling away. They avoid or refuse sex.
Some people take a more overt approach. They start accusing the partner of various things, like cheating, when they know damned well this has not occurred.
Have you ever used tactics like this, or had them used on you? What is the proper the way to leave your lover? What aspect in a chart incline a person to do this or have it been done to them?