SaDiablo asked on the Single Mother blog:
“Elsa, you said in your response, “…I assure you that your daughter has the right mother, not the wrong one.” Does this mean that you believe sometimes a child *does have the wrong mother? Just curious, as I’ve kicked this question around myself a few times. I’d like to hear a mother’s perspective.”
SaDiablo – I can’t imagine how a person could wind up in the wrong womb! That just makes no sense to me although I understand there are plenty of people who feel alien to their families!
People who feel alien in their families tend to feel alien in the world in general. And you could argue they did not attach to their parents or siblings (for whatever reason) when they were young so they grow up sans the ability to feel part of a close-knit group and you may be right. You could go on to say this is pathological and you may be right about that too but I would argue it.
I am an astrologer and I believe a person is born with their unique energy, period. I think we choose our parents, the people who will help us to manifest our destinies. For example, take me.
I am basically an ascetic and the idea I would have this quality is glaring in my chart. Venus square Neptune, Pisces on the 2nd house…some other indications.
And look who I grew up next door to? Henry! Henry who wonders if he should buy himself a portable radio, when he might donate that money instead.
On the other hand, I am inordinately attracted to taboo! And again, with a packed 8th house, it’s impossible to miss this in my chart. So guess who my father is? He’s a criminal! Great! Because while I’m at it, how else would I inherit my criminal mind, another thing shown in my chart?
And what about the fact I am highly sensitized to art? Who with Venus Neptune is not? And who is my mother? Well, she’s a painter.
So you see what I’m saying. I think it’s nature and nurture but bottom line, I think we choose our parents. And given a choice I don’t think many would choose to live my childhood, however I would. Because I can’t see any other way I could wind up being me.
I feel fully vested at this point in my life. I am still learning of course but I feel as if I have manifested myself as an individual in this world and every experience I have ever had, good or otherwise has assisted me in this endeavor.
Consequently, I’ve no complaints even though I had a therapist tell me once that I would have been better off growing up in a Nazi concentration camp.
Now what do you think? Can you have the wrong parents? Or no?
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