If you have Black Moon Lilith in Virgo, the pressure you’ve faced through your Lilith placement have made you thorough, practical, and whip-smart. Your wounds have taught you that “almost” only counts in horseshoes and hand grenades.
However your Lilith wounds have manifested (which is shown through the house placement), you found out early on that the best way to stave off the pain was perfection. Maybe you were the “good” child, or maybe the world around you was so chaotic and messy that you felt you were the only person who was willing or able to clean it up. Regardless, you learned that appearing perfect and not making waves was the best way to survive.
But that knowledge came with a price. You had to partition off whole sections of yourself to maintain that angelic image. And because of this, resentment has begun to grow. Why is it, you can’t help but wonder, that everyone is allowed to be flawed but you? Why do other people get to have a dark side while you are stuck polishing your halo? Why have you had to sacrifice your authenticity in service of other people’s convenience?
And speaking of service, life can have you feeling a little like a panicking Cinderella, always cleaning up other people’s messes because they somehow don’t see how bad things are. You see the ways that everything is broken and you try, try, try to fix it all, but things keep falling apart. Or even worse, your attempts to save people from themselves are taken as criticism, leaving people too defensive to accept your aid. It’s like you see a tornado barreling toward the town, but everyone around you is out of their front porch just watching it come. Why can’t they see what you see?
And that’s the other real pain of Black Moon Lilith in Virgo. You do see the writing on the wall, but because no one else does, you have no support. You’re left alone with your worry and anxiety. You feel a little like Cassandra, blessed with prophecy but cursed to never be believed.
To attenuate this pain, the best bet is to bring in principles from Virgo’s opposite sign, Pisces. Pisces trusts and transcends. Pisces trusts that, no matter what kind of chaos threatens to befall you and your loved ones, everything is still working out as it should. The worst-case scenario rarely happens, and when it does, people still find a way to go on. Pisces also knows that people often need to learn the hard way, so if they choose not to listen, maybe that’s part of their path in this life. After all, Pisces is less concerned with serving people’s material needs than it is with serving the soul. And sometimes the soul needs to find its own way. Pisces is also a master of wholeness. Pisces is interested in the universal. For this reason, they would never section off parts of their own identity. If everything is one, then what purpose could separation possibly serve? Everything you are is worthy because it is you.
While this is a complex placement and so much more could be written, I’ll close here. Just remember. Your generous service is a beautiful thing, and the world needs more of it. But you can’t truly serve unless you yourself are whole. Own every piece of yourself and trust that things will sometimes work out on their own, and you will truly be unstoppable.
Do you have Black Moon Lilith in Virgo? What has your experience been like?