When Mars and Lilith are in aspect in a synastry chart, the effect is powerful. Whether the aspect is a trine, opposition, or anything in between, the chemistry will smolder and the intensity will burn. So if you see Mars and Lilith in aspect in synastry, what do you need to know?
· Sexuality will be huge. This can easily be one of those relationships where you can’t keep your hands and eyes off each other, and the chemistry crackles so strongly that random passersby need a cold shower after watching the two of you together. Of course, with more challenging aspects there can be issues. Sexuality might take an outsized role in the relationship, and there is potential for sexual coercion and wounding. But this can also be a great placement for sexual healing and particularly makeup sex, given that the Lilith person feels truly heard. Which brings me to the next point:
· Fights will be explosive. Mars and Lilith both bring fire and fury to the table. Working together, no obstacle is insurmountable. But when they turn those horns toward each other, talk about a fight to the death. Mars fights because it is his nature. Lilith fights to survive. It can be very difficult for either person to give up their side, even when they know they’re wrong. And it’s just as unlikely that either side will truly know they’re wrong. Lilith, in particular, resists any attempts at control and is highly sensitive to feeling scapegoated and unheard. And Mars will sometimes secretly feel bested by the Lilith person’s fierce tenacity and will fight even harder to regain their pride. The only way to stop the destruction is to remember:
· They can achieve anything. When Lilith and Mars team up in synastry, there’s nothing they can’t do. They have a very strong sense of “us against the world,” and they will fight to protect the boundaries of their relationship at all costs. They may cause each other significant pain and strife, but God help any outsider who dares to point it out. In fact, the most effective way to keep them together is for other people to try to drive them apart. And when they are intentional about directing their efforts, they are able to build anything they desire, no matter what rubble they start with.
While of course the nature of a relationship depends on the whole chart, this intensity of this aspect can’t be denied. With Mars and Black Moon Lilith together, you’re guaranteed a feisty, intense, powerful connection that will be anything but boring.
Do you and your partner have Mars and Lilith in aspect? What is it like?