If you want insight into a person’s deeply ingrained psychological patterns, you’ll want to look at their Moon. The Moon rules the family and chances are, if you do something on “auto”, it’s rooted in your childhood.
One of the things I do is throw men out of the house. I have thrown countless men out of the house, and if I can’t get them to go, I go myself.
My husband brought this up the other night. I have been throwing him out of the house since I was 17 years old! Matter of fact, I threw him out of the house on our first date. Yes!
I invited him to dinner, we ate, and then he said something I didn’t like and I told him to get the hell out!
Being polite, he agreed to leave without further incident… at which point I changed my mind – I have Libra – and said he could stay. He stayed and the rest is history.
However, throughout our history, I have continued to throw him out.
“You even threw me out of my barracks room once,” he said. “You ordered me to leave my own barracks!”
I laughed. I was a teenager then, hot-headed as they come.
“I had to inform you that it was my barracks room and it belonged to the Air Force,” he said. “This is not your room, so you can’t kick me out of it!”
“Well if I’ve been at it that long, why in the world do you think it would change? It’s my default reaction. I recall you being quite amused at my antics…”
I have a Jupiter-flavored Moon. If I become emotionally upset, I want space! I don’t want to be hemmed in. I want to leave or I want you to leave. I don’t really care which, so long as I get away from you.
Now here is the interesting part: My husband’s Moon shows his attraction to an intense woman who disrupts things. Well here I am.
No doubt you have similar deeply ingrained patterns as does your partner, if you have one. Maturity can alter their expression, but they’ll still be there.
For example, I may not throw my husband out at this age (though I might). But if we get into it, we’re best off to go to opposite ends of the house… which is exactly what he wants to do anyway.
People deny stuff like this. And they want to change it, especially in their partner.
But this stuff is so deeply embedded you’re probably better off to work around it. How much time and money should we spend trying to get me to love feeling hemmed in when I hate being hemmed in and it’s right there in my chart plain as day?
If this kind of analysis is interesting to you, check out the transcript of my Saturn in Scorpio workshop for a lot more of it. I don’t think you’ll be disappointed.
Is there something you do over, and over by reflex or some kind instinct? What?