I recently met an older Aquarian man who is divorced like me. We had an instant connection because we had nearly identical backgrounds, views on morality, family – and we both wanted to find our soul mate. He was completely head over heels for me until he began asking specific questions about my sexual past.
Not wanting to lie, I answered honestly but without graphic details. He dumped me the next day, saying that he didn’t think I would ever be happy with a “normal” man like him because I am “too experienced”. I tried to explain that my past is my past, and all I want is a loving, monogamous, “normal” relationship with him, but he has turned off like a light bulb.
Is there any way to get him to see the true me instead of jumping to his own (unfounded) conclusions?
Has A History
OUCH. Are you sure you want to sell yourself to this guy? I don’t think you should.
This was his chance to learn not to ask questions when he can’t handle the potential answers to them and he failed. It was also his chance to transcend his narrow mind and his tendency to judge and he failed that too. He failed his chance to expand himself, and to go deeper into his feeling so tell me again why he is so wonderful.
Look. Don’t let the Sun in Aries fool you. You are a Plutonian through and through, and the last thing you need is someone who can’t stand the heat in your kitchen. On top of that, you are heading into a massive Pluto transit and your main gig now is to NOT let people like this make you feel as if you are degraded in some way – which is exactly what this guy is up to.
Get him back and I guarantee you he will find something else about he deems repulsive but it’s all projection, see? You are the light one here, he is the shadow. He asked a question, you answered it honesty – you rock, he sucks, end of story.