Relationship with someone who has saturn in 7th house
This is actually my first post here in this group. I really need to say thank you to Elsa because her blog is fantastic, she has such a different view on astrology as the other modern astrologers out there and it really soothes my soul. 😊
Anyway, I have some worries actually. My boyfriend has saturn in 7th house. He is a Taurus sun, leo moon, cancer asc. And I am worried because all they say about these people is that they are serious, reliable and kind of demanding. That they need someone grounded, hard working and emotionally rational. Someone with tons of experience, probably older( i am 7 years younger than him).
Well, first of all, I have no planets in earth sign except neptune in capricorn. My saturn is also debillitated (aries retrograde 9th house). I am a scorpio sun and moon with leo rising.
I think I have a good enough level of maturity. For my 24 years of life even too much.(I dare to say even more than him since he lacks awareness a lot) I have dealt with so much abuse in my life and I am healing a lot of that. But I certainly lack stability since I still dont feel safe kind of and I am also not very grounded person, not focused too much on a material plane and I also dont like to hold my emotions back.
Is that going to be a problem?
Welcome, SunnyScorp! Please check the "saturn in 7th" tag here:
Also, "Venus Saturn".
I think you'll be pleasantly surprised.
Also, the age difference is VERY common with people who have Saturn mashed with their Venus in any way. He does.
I also have a workshop on this (but it for $)
My dad has this and he's been married to my mom since 1978. I can't say he's been a perfect husband but he's not going anywhere!
Saturn in 7th, one possible outcome of many: a person may experience insecurities relating to their sense of self, self image, but project these onto others in close relationships until they can experience these insecure, fearful feelings as their own. The other partner would ideally be strong in their sense of self in order to recognise the true source of the anxious projections and recognise and contain them. When both are swayed by the insecurities, the relationship is challenged. This has been my experience of my partner having Saturn transit his 7th house. I think if you can work through this together with love, patience and kindness, it is a very binding aspect.
a person may experience insecurities relating to their sense of self, self image, but project these onto others in close relationships until they can experience these insecure, fearful feelings as their own.
^this has been my experience with Venus Saturn types...
The other partner would ideally be strong in their sense of self
although I have found this ^ while ideal tends to trigger the insecurity/projection even more so... they are attracted to what they fear (strength)
I can relate! I am with a man who has Saturn in the 7th house (I'm 7 years older than he), and I have found it's like breaking a wild horse--two steps up, one step back.
Grounded for me has meant NOT to give in to his rattily commitment level. I just ignore it and act like everything is fine until he moves to a more stable place. It's been a great growing experience for me to NOT be the wobbly one
Don't get in a desperation spiral by uncoupling because you think he is about to. Just stand your ground! We are on year 7 and Saturn sticktoitiveness has meant it's gotten better every year. Someone said that Saturn 7H stays; they do. Make sure you aren't the one twisting off