Leo man x Leo Woman (What is his deal)
I somehow became friends with this Leo male last year around this time. We got introduced at the gym from mutual friends.
Instantly got along, had same sense of humor. Can joke, as well as talk about serious life butter.
We were both in relationships, he even knew my bf. Was always just friendly or joking around.
A couple months after meeting he started asking me to join his workouts. Sometimes with another friend sometimes just me and him.
Once in awhile my boyfriend would come to my gym, he would go up to him and talk to him before coming up to me. Kind of a respect thing.
But I also thought it was maybe because he felt like he didnt wanna give my bf the wrong impression. Anyways my bf liked him too, and didn't care we were friends or worked out sometimes he was a very trusting pisces. He also wouldnt come talk to me as much, or ask me to workout around my bf.
But, I gained a crush on this Leo. And I felt it was mutual. We both never crossed any lines or said or did anything inappropriate but you could just tell we had a connection.
When he walked into the gym and seen me his face lit up - huge smile. He'd come right up to me. We would workout together, and even if we didn't workout together he would still come and talk to me a lot. Tease me, joke, or bullbutter about life.
Eventually he started walking out with me, we would leave at the same time. To the point where a few people made comments or strangers thought we were a couple, its like others could see it.
We never talked or texted outside the gym. Didn't even have each other on social media.
He is a good guy. And crushes happen. I figured it would fade over time. Eh its just a gym crush no biggie.
But my crush got stronger. And a lot of times I would see or hear his gf calling him and they argue a lot, he mentioned that before.
He never really talked about her ever. But he started asking me questions like, how did you meet your bf. What kind of guys have you dated in the past etc.
Fast forward, after the gym one day he asks me to join him and our other friend for food after. He then tells us his gf left him.
2 weeks later he walks in and goes your never gonna believe this. And says he proposed to her. (They do have a 2 year old together)
I kinda dropped my crush after that, distance myself. He is engaged, I was in relationship. It was kinda nice to not feel those feelings for a bit.
He ended up moving a half hour away and moving gyms a couple months ago. About 2 weeks after he leaves our gym he messages me on social media (But never adds me as a friend)
Tells me "I miss your lame ass" (our typical way of talking to one another is banter, roasting each other and jokes for days)
I kinda just start talking about the gym and other butter, didn't say I miss you too or anything. Because at this point I let go of it anyways, plus I'm in a relationship. That was that we didn't talk since.
Now, about 1 Month ago me and my boyfriend broke up. I broke up with him, due to my own reasons that I am not gonna share right now.
Leo finds out, asks for my number over social media and has texted me every day since he knew we weren't together. He drives to my gym a few days a week (1/2 hour drive) just to workout with me. He initiates texting 90% of the time. I just let him come to me because well I am trying to be respectful that he has a relationship. Although he hasn't mentioned his relationship and I don't have him on social media to even know anything about it or if he is in one. I just assume.
When we workout together all we do is laugh and joke, and i can be myself. Talk to him about serious things. And kind of just gets you to forget about everyday life.
So my crush is back and stronger than ever.
I just cant help it. He makes me laugh, I feel I can be myself without being judged, there is chemistry, and he has begun randomly touching me (not inappropriately) but just you know the feeling when someone wants to be close to you. Just their body language. Like a little shoulder bump to be playful kind of thing.
He never crosses the line, he is respectful. But, I can see it in his eyes too.
Even a few days ago he asked me to go out to eat after the gym and he bought my lunch.
He has now started to workout with me most days of the week. Again, driving a half hour in a car that uses a butter ton of gas. He told me it uses a quarter tank just to get out there (If that doesn't speak for itself)
I haven't felt this kind of connection in a long time, even more than I felt with my previous bf in the beginning..
I also ran into one of his friends at the gym right when we first started talking again after I was broke up, and he goes "I talked to Leo and he told me you guys worked out together, do you have a crush on him?" I said why are you asking me that? He goes I asked him and he said "idk, but she did just break up with her bf". He tells me he didnt wanna admit it lol.
I told him I wasn't saying anything (i didnt say yes but I didnt deny), and he goes its okay you dont have to say anything, I see the way you two look at each other, you have chemistry.
I said isnt he engaged? And he goes "Technically yeah, but I dont know he doesnt tell me about his life these days"
I try not to like him, but I just enjoy being around him. I would never cross that line because he is in a relationship. But I am just curious what is going through his head.
I dont think he would ever be the type to cheat, hes respectful. But, I damn well know he likes me. His actions say everything.
He started making more flirty "jokes" And I laugh it off. But deep down it has me pining over this guy. I have not seen him flirty with anyone else, and was not flirty with me until I was single.
Part of me wants to back off, because in reality this guy has a life. And I don't think it would ever get to that.
The hopeless romantic in me is holding onto that 1% sliver of hope that - if its the one it will be if its meant to.
But in reality maybe I am just in a fantasy world. And the last thing I want to do is ruin a family. But, in all honesty - he is the one coming to me. Texting everyday, initiating workouts, asking to go to eat etc
He makes a joke saying I am your gym bf. And I say no youre not lol but he continues to make the jokes.
It seems to be progressing with him driving so far just to see me and workout. And texting me everyday even at 3 am lol Yesterday he also got jealous in the gym of another guy playfully fighting with me and picked me up. You could see it on his face and he kept making remarks afterwards.
All we do is roast each other, laugh, have fun but we both also got a good head on our shoulders and can talk about real life stuff.
We just have a connection and he is different. And I value he is respectful because I feel like other guys would try to cross that line.
I feel the connection and I wonder what he truly feels - what is the extent of it.
How deep is his feelings really?
I feel I should distance myself, because If i were his woman. This looks horrible and I would be hurt! That he is spending so much time with another girl and texting her everyday and being flirty once in awhile. But at the same time I cannot help myself with this connection.
I know deep down he wouldnt cheat, and I wouldnt allow it. Well, I guess physcially. But - where does this end?
Whats the end game?
I believe our mars - venus aspects creates the chemistry.
Go ahead and judge me - anything you can say has already ran through my head lol
In reality deep down - I feel I am wasting my time feeding this crush that will never go anywhere.
But I cant get away. I might have to force! Help me let go of this Leo please and thank you lol I have to be realistic that he has a family.
My guess is he likes attention!
Best question you can ask yourself is, what do you want?
1% chance is not enough to pay and mind to. <- opinion
You can ask him how he feels. But I think actions say a lot more, especially in situations like this. Evasion, subtlety, and sweet talk are the bread and butter of romantic flings and flirtation, so it can be hard to get a straight answer. That can be fine if you already know someone is available, but it can become really confusing otherwise.
So what you know about his actions are that he flirts with you, in person and through text. The rest of the time, presumably, he’s raising children in a home with the woman he’s asked to be his wife. They likely pay bills together and know each other’s families. They have history, and if they have kids together, they’re bound for life, regardless of what happens in their relationship.
I’m not judging you. I know how easy it can be to get caught up in something like this, to like the attention, to meet someone who seems like everything you’ve been missing, to think…what if…if only.
I fell in love with a man who failed to mention he was still seeing his ex. They were separated and “repairing” their relationship. I felt so unbelievably stupid and it turned out to be the most pain I’ve ever felt in my life. It changed every part of my life. She knew about me, though, and sent her friends into my work to check me out. I was too weak to pull myself away, even though by that point I knew something wasn’t right. I was just hanging on his words as the truth. They were meaningless, obviously, because he was a lying coward. It took me so long to heal from that, and I’ve set a lot of rules for myself since then.
So. What if she finds out and doesn’t see this as an innocent thing? What if she goes crazy on you? What if she tracks him and shows up to wherever you guys are together? Even if you’re just hanging out, what if she believes a serious line has been crossed? What if she makes a scene or tries to ruin your reputation? What if she is well connected somehow, and could thwart your future? What if she snaps and tries to physically hurt you? What if she finds out and tries to keep his kids from him? That especially will kill any and all romance, and he’ll likely hate himself and probably resent you. What if all that happens and he still ends up with her, his family?
I don’t know if any of this could or would happen, and I hope it doesn’t. And only you’ll know if dealing with any of those possibilities would be problematic for you. Maybe it’d be worth it to you. But these are possibilities that can be hard to see when things seem fun and sweet and comfy, and when there’s a lot of chemistry.
These days, I don’t even analyze why I feel hesitant about someone. I don’t assume anything about their character, I just know it isn’t a good fit, for whatever reason, and leave it at that.
Both charts would be important to see in this case, though I agree with your initial assessment. Compatible Venus and Mars usually signify good chemistry, but aren’t necessarily long lasting or deep, on their own. Other aspects and placements generally show that. With the Fixed and Cardinal energy involved here, though, Saturn and Pluto are making some challenging aspects in both charts, at least by sign, if not degree. It is very, very common for someone who is feeling overwhelmed by serious relationship and commitment to seek out something (or someone) light and fun. Just something to keep in mind. Sometimes we just have to go through things and see what happens, especially if we’ve never been there before. From my vantage point now, though, I wouldn’t want to become a third party in someone’s messy relationship.
That makes me think, I think Elsa has written about triangles in regards to Venus/Pluto. Might be worth a search.
As a Leo sun, mercury and Venus both in Leo as well and a Libra rising . In the past I could easily get infatuated with a person. I once dated a Leo male with an Capricorn moon. And for us it did not work out. My lesson was that his capricorn moon dragged me down. And it was square my Pluto in Libra. The Leo males I know tend to be very loyal towards their partners even tho they are in bad relationships. Can you share your beloved ? I found it hard he had a son with his ex , and eventually he couldn’t let her go. He idealized her. For me that was enough to get of the stage. Or my ego couldnt take it.
I have to say his ex was a lovely girl. And she didn’t take him back. I don’t know how old you are. And I know it sounds sooo cliche , but from a fellow Leoness with libra rising I would bide my time and keep my distance. I’m in a steady relationship now for the past 8 years with a very loyal and caring Scorpio sun and Libra moon. No more capricorn moons for me for sure.
just my 2 cents!
Aww you are a bit younger. Remember even tho you come into a situation that you think your heart is broken. Its only the ego that gets bruised. I’m happy for the misfortunes in love now while I look back. I’m 41 and I’m calmer now. I won’t get myself in situations anymore. But O do I remember the time I easily got infatuated. Like the biggest sunrays. But when clouds come by , you’ll miss the light. You are your own light. And there will come a handsome stranger along who will swep you off your feet. A man who gives you the spotlight. A Leo male wants that too. And for you as a Leoness its not your duty to share that light with a fellow leo .
much love and light to you! Stand back and just wait patiently ( preferably for a not Leo lol)
The connection between you sounds very strong and hard to avoid. Leo's are such heart centred people, the heart wants what it wants! I feel this guy is genuine in his heart about you, yet he has a dilemma. Does he follow his heart or his responsibilities? We know that he has a relationship that is both difficult - they separated- and has responsibilities - a child. He solved the issue of the separation conflict and the child by offering to get married, Capricorn and Virgo, do the right thing! You were taken at that time, not an option. Now you are free and like you, his crush is a fire he can't put out. He is now with a growing dilemma, he doesn't know what to do and is as confused as you. He is salving his heart urges by seeing you and spending time, maybe hoping the answer will appear, but the longterm problem lies unsolved. If you care about him from your experiences together thus far, as a fellow struggling human being, I would bring up the subject directly and ask him your questions. You would be taking responsibility, it is true, but also being kind to the both of you. You can then get real about this dilemma together. I think the worst that could happen is that you would have to agree to separate your relationship but at least on friendly terms. The best outcome is you might deepen your connection through honesty.