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How to deal gracefully with feeling pressured? Libra challenges.

Libra Noir
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Do you all have any advice for gracefully dealing with people who pressure me? My general response is not serving me anymore. That general response being very much connected to my Mars conjunct Uranus in Scorpio in the 11th along with my Libra Sun. I will normally allow myself to be backed into a corner (Libra) and then when I see no way out I will Mars/Uranus activate, which is basically a trauma response-fight or flight. Its not pretty nor enjoyable for anyone. 

So, it’s essentially a boundary issue, along with trying to be nice but also not completely willing to be controlled. Do you all see any way that I can use these astrological vibrations to more of my benefit? Thanks in advance! 

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shortpants
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What's your Saturn doing?

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Libra Noir
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@shortpants In Libra in the tenth house, conjunct Jupiter in Virgo in the ninth and sextile that Mars/Uranus I mentioned. It’s also square my Cap rising. You’d think with all that Saturn I’d have excellent boundaries lol.

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Take control of your time. Don't let anyone rush your game (card playing).  "No" can mean, not right now.

You can also be direct. Tell the person you don't like being pushed. At that point, ball is in their court.

Main thing is to slow it down. Make pushing you not pay off.

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@elsa I think I can do that, thank you.

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this is what I do.

 

Similar to what Elsa said, I pause. I try to see if I am over reacting.

 

When it is 'non-personal': case in point, my boss will obviously want everything fast and correct! I get it. it is his job 😀 )

 

I calm down and deliver what I have to. If he keeps coming back, then I know, he  is actually okay with my result and time it requires.

 

When it is personal, as in someone is out to push you and make you uncomfortable: Again,  I pause. I check why they are being like that. IF I am able to stay balanced. I will send a signal that I don't like it - stop communicating, tell them directly. If I don't feel its working and I am not able to keep a boundary - I take more space. Then its you for you, me for me. My Scorpio will hit back at any attempts to make me uncomfortable. I will confront you head on.

 

  • if I can stay calm and emphatize, lucky them
  • throughout the process, ( like Elsa said) 'If this worth my time?' floats in my head. clarity as to what I am gaining in this process and whether it is worth it.
  • I also check if this is a phase in a long term relationship. Then  I am more accomodating.
  • If I am convinced that you are out to get me, and the thing I need from you ( especially work situations) is important right now, I will just suck it up and compromise! 😀 But only short term deals in this case. I wouldn't deal with these ppl long term.

 

A pause and some clarity as to why they may be behaving like that, usually works. Let them, do your thing, and everyone moves on Smile

 

Hope this helps! 

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Random thoughts:

Let your feminity be comfortable and free within you! she got this (masculine liden situation) without thinking much! Smile

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take care! ❤️

 

 

 

 

 

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@confusionconfusion Thanks confusion. Good tips. There is something about the Masculine and Feminine that is at the core of this. Elsa told me in a consultation that I was very very yin.

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I think this is a Libra-Aries imbalance:

Posted by: @libra-noir

I will normally allow myself to be backed into a corner

Your 'I' ( Aries) is being compromised when dealing with the 'other'

Me exists, now I am dealing with you.

( I really hope I made sense ?) 

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@confusionconfusion Totally resonates! That’s exactly what came to mind (Aries) when reading your first post. 

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@libra-noir I sympathize, coz from personal experience it can be challenging to implement Smile

good luck!

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