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Help me build relationship with my brother
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Monday, May 15, 2017 - 8:19 am
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Hi, all. I'm new around here and still a nascent student of astrology, so many thanks to anyone who may be interested in looking at an aspect-heavy chart for practice/fun, or if just interested.

Long story, short, I have a brother much older than I am who I love, but have never really been close with. We are perfectly amiable when we're around each other (which is rare), but due to many things -- past family issues that I'm still not really aware of, our big age difference -- we haven't been emotionally close. When I was young, this was just kind of the norm, but now that we're both adults, I'm completely aware of how I've been missing him from my life, and I'm eager to build a relationship with him.

As mentioned, there is some family history that I'm not totally aware of, but from what I can recall, he has been estranged from our immediate family since i was about 3 or 4 and he was 16/17 (that I can remember). When I look at his chart I see...a lot going on. Honestly, I'm a bit overwhelmed by all of the aspects, and how to interpret/synthesize them, as well as the effects of some of the patterns, such as the grand cross. But I've been focusing on the aspects with his moon and 3rd house (as that should relate to his relationship with our mom and me and my sister), as well as the 7th house for relationships (which has his saturn). The squares that I see -- and what they imply -- seem to indicate a lot that I sense at a gut-level from him: an emotionally distant relationship with our mother, feeling a lack of support from siblings and just a general sense of loneliness, which breaks my heart.

I asked my brother for a get-together in about a week and I intend to express what I've been feeling about wanting to build a relationship and be a bigger part of his life, as well as understanding what may have strained the relationship between him and our parents in the first place. But I'd love any additional insight into his life experience/perspective/thinking and emotions so that I can approach that conversation in the best way possible. Is anyone willing to help? I'm going to attach his chart (which I'm hoping someone will interpret) and mine (in case you want to see where I'm coming from, though I'm not explicitly asking for anyone to interpret my chart since my focus is on my brother). I'm particularly curious about his wounds (past and present) that I should be aware of, his sensitivities and how to best connect with him.

Thank you so much!

P.S. I notice we both share the same sun, moon and mercury signs, which I hope will help with communication.

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Hi all - I'm heading into this conversation in a couple days. Just bumping this to see if there's anyone else who would like to offer insight on mine and my brother's chart before doing so? I've attached his natal/transit chart, my natal/transit chart, and a synastry chart. Thanks so much to anyone who cares to share some observations.

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Hmm...well I am not sure if anyone can see the attachments. So I'm trying to embed the chart images below. In the synastry chart, his planets are the outter planets in red.

 

My transit chart

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I couldn't see anything until you embedded the charts. That is really amazing that your Moons are almost the exact same degree. 

Your chart shows Jupiter in the 3rd house of siblings is there a class or short day trips that both of you would enjoy doing together? There is a New Moon on May 25th conjunct that Jupiter so that could be a new beginning for your relationship.

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Sunshineandsoul, this is a lovely thing, to want to develop a relationship with your brother.  I hope you'll share, here, how your meeting with him goes.

Before then, while you're thinking about what you hope in that meeting, please post any questions that cross your mind?  Astrology  doesn't force anything to happen, but, it can be a very useful tool to help us to succeed, better, in what we want to accomplish.  So, please share, also, your hopes - specific or fluid - and your thoughts, leading up to your appointment with your brother?

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