One time it was suggested to me when my Gemini son was off the teenage rails, and I was so worried my hair started falling out. She was a family counselor, and I went one time. She suggested tough love... sounded great HA try to pull that on his Mars in Scorpio. I did better talking to my Gemini teen. Anyway, he got over his teenage angst and my hair grew back HA. Good long talks work with Gemini. You aren't going to force a damn thing on them. I don't care who you are. If they can't work that out in their mind, it's not happening.
NOW... a good grief counselor might do me some good. I mean two parents dying at once is pretty harsh on the emotions after the wild ride the last two years have been.
My problem is ... I'm a Scorpio. You know we don't tell anyone anything. I probably need to go. But worry if I do, I will get there and just stare at the person like... you're not getting shit out of me. Being the walking vault and all. I hate telling things, telling on people, telling my ridiculous story. I share but to a select few. I have shared some to a couple of peeps here... one has a packed 8th house and the other one I have moon/Pluto with. Not a real word to anyone else... well my husband knows. He is on top of me all day every day 😒
This whatever nightmare event I just went through caused me to have depression (or as I call it Saturn) for the first time in my life. I am pulling out of it. I probably need to go see someone just to find a way to navigate through the remainder of this grief. It's rough.
"The walking vault"... A difficult posture, but very well named by you!!!
Humor in your grief - very soup-like!
I hope you'll find a way out of your Saturn.
@satsun TY! woo-hoo... Saturn is hard on me. I can deal with Pluto but Saturn... omg! March. It gets off my back in March.
I have and will literally watch someone trash me and my name knowing damn good and well that if I came in and said a word I could destroy. But I also know karma and have a firm grip on consequences. I used to do it when I was young. Now it is not worth it for my soul. I let them be the asshole. Everyone sees it eventually anyway. I just sit there.
I have no intention of ever changing my mind on this. If someone tells me something I will never repeat it. People deserve that. Everyone needs someone they can talk to whether it's reciprocated or not.
I am just hanging on till March.... Saturn relief in March. Saturn is truly depressing and painful. Especially when it's squared your moon. Lot of crying... to myself. Very lonely. But you know what? It teaches you that you are literally all you need to survive. Other people are the bonus. Love yourself and learn to live with yourself right now... you'll have more to give and in the right ways after. Very big lesson about over giving. You have to ask yourself why you did it in the first place. Look in the mirror. I did. Saturn said... you caused this shit storm. Deal with yourself.... then move forward. I got it!!!
I saw some sort of therapist for like maybe eight years and I never talked about anything - so I quit.
I love that you said this haha .. this was me. I can come here and talk about my kid, but I don't want you to know shit about my kid haha I don't tell things on my kid... what a rock and a hard place. Help me... but I can't tell you why or what he did hahahahahahha We both knew that was going nowhere. She just said... tough love... I disagreed. It all worked out in the end. He is outstanding today. My hair grew back LOL
I am giving it till April. I know you cannot put a calendar time on grief but there is an immense amount of suffering when you lose both of your parents no matter what kind of parent they were. If I still feel blue in April, I will go talk to someone about how to manage it better. My father passed in late Aug, and I still have moments where the water just runs out of my eyes. Mom, early October...this has been devastating.
You are right. For some, talking to a stranger about an issue is uncomfortable. My best friend of 45 years is a Cancer. We are each other's therapist. She just called this morning. Crying. I was ready to hit the road in that direction. We are available to each other 24-7. I would go home hold her head up and beat off the resistance if she needed me to. Her... the same. We were in the room when each of us had our babies. We raised them together. She loves my boys and I love hers. I am lucky to have her. If you do it to me, you do it to her...and vice versa!
I saw some sort of therapist for like maybe eight years and I never talked about anything - so I quit.
But he was a very nice person, hardly ever said a thing. (I did give him a drawing once, but he never commented on it.)
I guess I needed someone to talk to.
As it is, I'm still pretty much uncomfortable - but it seems like a habit now.
You get used to it.
Yes in my twenties for 2 years after my brother passed away. Was a very good therapist. And now also my second year.
I felt reluctant to go two years ago. But Saturn square my moon at the time did the trick. I’m so grateful that I did go. It’s helping enormously!
my therapist also recommended the breath work. I didn’t believe in it at first. But now doing breath work in combo with meditation and it soothes me.
in therapy I have had EMDR , and now we’re at Internal family systems. Very insightful.