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Monday, December 2, 2019 - 4:39 pm
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astro_61gw_ma_kk.80740.299192.pngImage EnlargerAs some synastries were  posted last few days I decide to put this one.

I’m the inner and he is outside circle.

Know each other since 1,5 year but didn’t have contact. One data i needed something and we start regular contact. Once he came to my place and we spent all night (till 6 a.m.) talking. And suddenly everything started… For 2 weeks 😋 

Honestly, although this guy is much younger, I’m feeling like home with him. During two weeks we spent plenty of time together. He stayed at my place several times. Long talia, hugs and kisses. He didn’t wanted to have sex yet (or at least says this). 

And suddenly he withdraw, saying that he is affraid as he have tricky moment right now (opening business) and don’t want me to get engaged.

We are still on regular contact. And I’m thinking what crazy energy we have. 

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Sigh.  I was writing a reply, when the browser window closed (the fault of this device), and unlogged me, for extra fun.

The short version is:  he has gently, kindly put the brakes on (Saturn) the two of you becoming a couple.  Whether this means slow down (Saturn) or “sorry, no” (Saturn), only time will tell (Saturn).  I can imagine that this is *not* easy when your feelings (Moon) are on fire (Aries).  I advise you to use your Venus in Virgo, to help you to respect the restrictions (Saturn) he’s put on the table between you.  confused

You both have Saturn (serious attitude) in your 6th houses (work).  His is square his Sun, suggesting that he wants to be established, and sure of himself and his partner, before establishing a home & a family.  Cancer Sun (family kind of man) opposite your Neptune is an added reason for taking time before leaping over the steps of really knowing one another.  With Neptune, it means letting time for whenever the fog (rosy, dreamy view) to lift, to see what is really what you each want to accomplish, lifelong.

All the same, it sounds like you both enjoy one another’s company, which is a great gift!  I hope that whatever the relationship between you is shaping (Saturn) that you find ways to continue to develop your conversation together.  smile

Hope that helps.  heart

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Tuesday, December 3, 2019 - 12:50 pm
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You wrote it great!

I think it is worth to wait to see what will happen. Not wait with hope “one day we will be together” but just give space and time and check where we will be later.

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No advice (I have somewhat similar “waiting around” issues) but you have my sympathy. I just wonder if mine is ever going to want to and these days it feels like “probably not.”

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update few months later 😉

 

I have quite big crisis, not because of this guy, but life issues. On January I took a brake from work because of it, and after getting my mind better I realised I can’t work full time job in the office everyday beeing single mother and quit the job. I wanted to open private company for ladies relocated to my country to show them polish culture. But the COVID came right this time. So I would be without job and money right now but….

When I was quitting my job he calls me and offer part-time job for his company. In that moment I agreed but I was thinking it will be just for short time. And now this is my only source of income. I feel he is taking care of me in some strange way. When in March I was at quarantine (I had COVID symptoms) he made big shopping for me. Now he is lending me some money as from the money I earned it would be impossible to pay the rent. We are talking by phone everyday as i am working from home. But we meet twice only (since Autumn!!) for just few minutes.  And when I’m asking for a meeting because of a job, he is trying to find sollution not to meet with me. From the other site he calls me few times a day, honestly without a reason, asking for things we alredy speak about or to wake me up in the morning or in the middle of the night to tell how good carbonara he made (obviously drunk).

 

Curious where it will go with the time…

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Portokal, nice to hear the update and glad the symptoms got better.

What a roller coaster you’ve had. Yes, he’s caring for you a little, he sounds responsible. Calling everyday with no tangible reason, to me, sounds like he needs to know how you are, cares for you and feels attached to you (he needs proximity to you to feel better and safer.)

Interesting how he continues to do so in the distance…so he still has some boundaries/restrictions/brakes. 

Clearly there is a bond between you two but Saturn is there. He’s in a slightly parental role now and perhaps you have that role with him too in the phone calls (soothing or nurturing him?)

It sounds like this year with Covid-19 it’s a year of going with the motions and about various levels of care and survival. Let’s see how the relationship develops this year and next. 

Use you Virgo Venus to be objective – lovely advice up there. Fingers crossed for you.

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