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Blinded by rage
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Wednesday, February 15, 2017 - 8:00 pm
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Have you ever been blinded by rage?

I have. I see it all around me now, I'm sure you do as well.  I'm so grateful I don't feel that way. I hope never have to feel those feelings again.

Anyone know what I mean?

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Wednesday, February 15, 2017 - 8:28 pm
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Yes and it's really frightened me.

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Yes, it was horrible.  It motivated me to learn to control my temper.

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Yes, I have. I've mellowed out over the years thankfully. I don't see it happening around me at all. 🙂

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Oh yes. Mars conjunct Uranus in Scorpio. When I was with my ex it happened yearly or so. One time I peed myself I was so enraged. Thank god I've got a handle on that. I'm not living in as much fear as I was then though. 

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I think I have been and it was a reaction to being accused of something so confusing, which was wrong and made no sense to me. And it was a reaction to another person being blinded by rage towards me for a perceived wrong, very messed up, and making no sense whatsoever. So the person rages and screams and threatens, and I am seething, inside, only because 1) I can't think or respond straight when I'm like that and 2) I know full well my tongue has the capacity to rip someone to pieces.

It's been awhile but I decided I will just walk the next time it happens.

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Thursday, February 16, 2017 - 5:58 pm
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I understand because I have PTSD. It is probably best if I don't tell things I have thought when it is triggered.

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According to Karla Mclaren (Love her book, The Language of Emotions), "rage and fury arise when anger has not been heeded, or when tremendous boundary violations have occurred (or vital personal sensitivities have been ignored)."

 

She goes on to say it is beyond anger - anger that has been building for years. They need to "destroy abusive contracts" (she talks a lot about "contracts" in her work)

 

Anyway, I was thinking about this the other day. This time I raged at my mom over the phone like a total maniac. It was terrifying. For both of us. It was exactly what McLaren talks about above. Years of boundary violations, years of verbal abuse - I'd just had enough. And my rage alerted me to this. At the time, I didn't know that. I thought I'd just lost it and was mortified. But now that I have studied emotions, I know so much more and have compassion for that person who felt so helpless and trapped and powerless.

And because I never want to go back there, I do what I can regularly to listen to my feelings, honor them, pay mind to my boundaries, have boundaries, etc. etc.

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i get angry now and then, but blind rage has been a rare occurrence. i try to avoid it because i can feel how destructive it is to my own body to let it get to that level of stress. in hindsight, it has never been worth it.

it was brought on by a feeling of severe injustice and powerlessness, at being subject to abusive behavior. and it has always been related to my family. i have not felt that level of rage towards someone else who has done something horrible to me, but for some reason, coming from my own family, it felt intolerable. black moon lilith in cancer. 

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Even with rage I know exactly what I'm doing, with a couple exceptions (bad reaction to a prescription, for instance).

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A long time ago, yes. I was wordless with rage, at boundary trespasses.

I think "beyond anger," is accurate, in so far as I believe there's choice involved: a  definite step over a threshold into rage. A quick step, especially if ours habits don't adapt so that we address the transgressions effectively. I'm glad, too, that I've learned how to switch gears when I approach that dividing line, in the tumult of anger & outrage &...

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