Are Venus Mars aspects in synastry overrated?
I met a man years ago and there was huge attraction between us. People around us could feel it too and were waiting for us get together. When I checked our charts we had Venus conjuct Mars double whammy.
However we never got together even though both of us were single. I met the man again years later and the attraction was still there. Nothing happened.
Has anybody else had great Mars Venus but it lead to nothing?
Maybe more misunderstood than overrated. Mars and Venus show sexual and romantic chemistry, but not necessarily longevity. Saturn (commitment), Jupiter (generosity, belief system/life philosophy), Moon (instinct, emotive body), and Mercury (communication) have more of an impact than Venus/Mars in determining long term compatibility. Not that Venus and Mars aren’t important since many relationships fail due to lack of sex and romance. Others never get off the ground once the heat simmers down.
And then, of course, different people look for different things in a partner, especially as they get older.
You can be attracted to someone and then visit their home (moon) and think, ugh.
I find that with Venus and Mars there's definitely attraction but it doesn't mean that anything will come of it. Other aspects can come into play. I personally like Pluto contacts to happen in synastry because that is sexy for me and more intense than Venus and Mars.
Which Pluto contacts do you like best?
I had Venus sextile Pluto in a relationship once and there was a powerful attraction between us.
Venus and Mars indicate attraction, but if you want something further, Moon and Saturn aspects can indicate if there will be any kind of longevity or not. Weirdly enough, I can attest that Moon-Mars contacts can be even steamier, as even subconsciously there is a sense of wanting to procreate.
As for Pluto, I love it. It has a similar energy to Mars, but it is more refined and binding. My Moon exactly conjuncts my partner's Pluto, and this is reflected in our composite chart. Since he came into my life, not only has he been a healing influence after the abusive relationship I got out from, but in fact, I feel different, way more ...myself.