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Are Venus Mars aspects in synastry overrated?


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I met a man years ago and there was huge attraction between us. People around us could feel it too and were waiting for us get together. When I checked our charts we had Venus conjuct Mars double whammy.

However we never got together even though both of us were single. I met the man again years later and the attraction was still there. Nothing happened.

Has anybody else had great Mars Venus but it lead to nothing?

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Maybe more misunderstood than overrated. Mars and Venus show sexual and romantic chemistry, but not necessarily longevity. Saturn (commitment), Jupiter (generosity, belief system/life philosophy), Moon (instinct, emotive body), and Mercury (communication) have more of an impact than Venus/Mars in determining long term compatibility. Not that Venus and Mars aren’t important since many relationships fail due to lack of sex and romance. Others never get off the ground once the heat simmers down.

And then, of course, different people look for different things in a partner, especially as they get older.

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@elsa Thanks Elsa! This is Buendia, I was having some trouble with the email I used for my old account and couldn’t get back in, so I started a new one! After crossing my IC recently, Saturn is finally on its way up, so it feels like a good time for a shift anyway. Have been really busy, but have also been jotting down Astro ideas. I was saving them for a less busy time, but I can jump in with some now. (Was going to do a brief update in your pinned post: I’m also graduating college this year, possibly applying to grad school at the end of the year. There’s more, but I’m sure some updates will fit well into some new threads).

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@earth-world  thank you! I saw your lockout and wondered if someone was trying to break your acct. It is fine on my end. Just reset you password and login, if you want revert. Smile

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@elsa no sweat! The problems actually the email address/service I used:/. One day, moving along fine, next, total piece o crap. Didn’t wanna jam you up shifting emails since you’ve kindly done that for me before, but I think this will work out. I know it’s been hard out there for so many... but I’ve been loving this Taurus/Aquarius energy. Seems suited to “Earth World,”:))

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@earth-world

 

Yes, I think for a relationship to work long term other planets are more important. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. 

 

Welcome to the forum!

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You can be attracted to someone and then visit their home (moon) and think, ugh.  

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@elsa. Yes, that's a good point. 

Wonder what would hard aspects between moons be like in synastry. 

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@mariar  It's not great and you might not realize it until you actually try to live together.

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I find that with Venus and Mars there's definitely attraction but it doesn't mean that anything will come of it. Other aspects can come into play. I personally like Pluto contacts to happen in synastry because that is sexy for me and more intense than Venus and Mars. 

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Which Pluto contacts do you like best?

 

I had Venus sextile Pluto in a relationship once and there was a powerful attraction between us. 

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The trine. My closest male friend has his Pluto trining my Moon and Venus, which makes it easier for us to have a close bond. I often share his bed with him when stay at his place. His Pluto also sextiles my Mars and squares my Sun. Our friendship is very Plutonian. I don't mind it because I have a Scorpio ASC and a first house Pluto. He has a 5th house Venus square a 2nd house Pluto natally so I'm inclined to think he doesn't mind it either.

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@mariar

Although I'm not sure if there's any attraction between us. If there is, I must be pretty terrible at picking it up. LOL.

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Venus and Mars indicate attraction, but if you want something further, Moon and Saturn aspects can indicate if there will be any kind of longevity or not. Weirdly enough, I can attest that Moon-Mars contacts can be even steamier, as even subconsciously there is a sense of wanting to procreate.

As for Pluto, I love it. It has a similar energy to Mars, but it is more refined and binding. My Moon exactly conjuncts my partner's Pluto, and this is reflected in our composite chart. Since he came into my life, not only has he been a healing influence after the abusive relationship I got out from, but in fact, I feel different, way more ...myself.

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