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jenfullmoon
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I really, really dislike older men. There's been a lot of creepy dudes and especially power trippers who think I'm too dumb to figure out what they are pulling. Uck. Too bad 99% of what goes for me is guys who are significantly older and that only gets worse as you go on.

My most recent crush was 13 years younger, which is kind of yikes right there. And frankly, might explain a lot as to why that didn't work out. I'm not super mature myself, but still.

I really prefer within a year of my own age, something EQUAL with regards to power, but the older you get, the more I hear that isn't doable. Sigh. I don't know.

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With just a few exceptions, I've only dated or partnered men 2-5 years older than me.  But I have seen A LOT of relationships with a wide age gap work very well. It just doesn't seem to be my imprint.

I have only had one man significantly younger than man really, profoundly interested in me. I. Could. Not.

I just could not imagine it and in fact, had to work not to laugh at this kid.  He pursued me for several months. I have no clue how he could have thought I was on the fence about this. I was not.

TOO. YOUNG. BYE. Get a girl your own age.

We were both in our 20's, lol.

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I prefer someone about 3-5 years older than me. I’ve never dated someone my age (within a year). Least successful has been about two years younger. That might be less a conflict of age, though. The SN of that age group and my Venus don’t suit each other well. I suspect a similar dynamic would arise with someone 18 years older than me, and so on.

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The oldest relationship I had was +30, also had +14 years, and +9 (lasted nearly ten years), and the youngest -12 (for six years). All the rest were usally just a few years older. None of them were committed relationships (I mean mariage & such).

Not sure if Saturn conj Sun has anything to do with it b/c I didn't go out of my way to dig up older men.

The +14 and +30 were when I was in my early 20's, so it's pretty common.

My father was 15 years older than my mother. It's sad to see how things go towards the end of life. It was very hard for my mother, but she was very courageous about it.

 

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@satsun

 

Did your mother end up being a caregiver for you Dad?

That's my concern about age gaps.  Maybe I'm selfish but I think if the man is a lot older I'd end up looking after him before long. 

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He was in pretty good health up to a late age, so he didn't need "caregiver" care. But at one point he got sick and had to go to hospital, then a health facility, and was there until he died. He wanted to go home but couldn't. This lasted a long while and that is what made my mother desperate, to see him in such a state.

He died at 93, which is quite something.

He was Aries, Aries rising.

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I've always been attracted to older men, Venus in 10th. My current partner is 11 years older than me, and we have been together 21 years.  I have a feeling men this age have their Pluto touching a sensitive part of my chart.

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