@vdn yeah, it's super cool.

Talking to my husband about this last night, he mentioned that this man was NUTS but he always had a good heart. He aspired to be a good man, which was easy for his brother to do but not easy for him.

His brother supported him. He's got a great family - he's his mom's favorite but he knew he was an imposter! Seriously.  He greatly respected his father and his older brother and just simply had challenges, I don't think they had to deal with. Being a little crazy!  All mental stuff.

Anyway, a person can be young and have these kinds of problems. If they apply themselves, they can resolve them - they can do something, for sure.

I made him apologize to a girl he'd ghosted. Not "made him" but just explained... he always wanted to be a good man.

"Would a good man do something like that?  Did she do anything at all to deserve it?"

"No and no."

"Then you must apologize. You can't leave her feeling she did something wrong - there is something wrong with here."

"I don't really want to do this."

"I don't care. It's supposed to suck! If it's particularly horrible, you'll be sure to never do this again."

See, he did these kind of exercises and he learned to quit over-promising, lying, gaming... all the negative manifestations in his chart. He reeled them in one at a time.

Very smart man and interested. He's Indian to the bone but educated at a Catholic University (and Sadge) so we had this commonality.

In fact, before he had to go do something like this, he specifically would ask me to pray for him and I would do it!

@vdn good questions. He paid. He paid for every minute I spent on the phone with him.

Occasionally, I client who treats me more as a therapist. There are no free sessions but a relationship does develop.

I don't know how this man found me. No clue. He literally contacted me exactly as I described. He selected me using some criteria or he had a feeling or something.

He occasionally hired other people... psychics, for example. He would just mention this.

He was never in my inner circle... it's just that I would talk on the phone, in small house back them. I would sometimes take 10 calls a day from him. My hands throbbed, holding the phone. So I would say to my son, "XXXXX is calling again..."

I do have a one client in my inner circle who hired me 22 years ago!  Ten years after the fact, we became friends. Other than that, no.

Now I do have certain patterns with some clients... these are people who I have worked with for years. We have fallen into specialized situations we're both comfortable with. This does not include discounting my rate. I am worth the money, period. But some people like to pay a sum and have me track the time and let them know when I need more $. I do this for regulars.

I don't sell 10 min consults but if you're a regular and want to talk to me for 10 minutes / random times, I accommodate this. I am talking about years long relationships.

As for what they know about me - most of them don't care to know anything about me, unless they have Gemini.  If they have Gemini, they may ask me something from time to time and if so, I answer honestly.

This man knew I was catholic, knew I was married, knew I took marriage seriously, knew I had some awareness of Indian culture and so it was a fit. 

He also had his own way of paying which pissed me off to no end.

Specially, he would make these short calls, ten times in a day. I am not into micro-billing so I would just keep a running total, which he would clear, pretty frequently. But after a flurry of calls, over a period of days, he would stop contacting me for some period of time... weeks or as he improved, months. Invariably he stuck me with the final bill, which may be $5-600. I was pissed because I told him to knock it off.

But then he would surface and want to talk. At that point, he would pay is bill in full and we'd start back up.

Anyway, I am adaptable, as I've said many times. And I am fair and I am honest. So if another person is wanting something reasonable, I will try to accommodate them. 

In the end, this man grew up. He needed me much less after he met his fiancé which was when he was about 27 year old, heading into his Saturn return. His breezed through that time in his life. by the way. This is likely, if you're around me when you're young. I'm all about do-the-right-thing so you're equipped with instructions and an example.

So this was a business deal but this man really had to reach deep inside himself to become the man he wanted to be - it was and is emotional for both of us. I am his auxiliary mother. His own mother could or would never see a flaw in him - this is sweet, he didn't want her to have to!

Seriously, he wanted to become half the man she thought he was before she found out he was something other... I think he's done it.

As for the money, I was paid in full. He always told me he would never stiff me... that I had helped him so much, he could think of nothing worse he could possibly do.

I asked him why he always left me with an outstanding bill. "I don't know. I'll try to stop."

So it was like everything else in his life.
He had to learn not to hack his gf's mail, not to lie, etc.

He was successful.

@soup good decision!